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Bachelorette Party paying for myself?

So, my maid of honor sent me an evite to my bachelorette party.  It basically just says the time and date and says that we will be eating dinner somewhere and going to a party hot spot and everything is a surprise for me so don't tell.  But, then it says in small letters underneath that each person is responsible for their own food and beverage, etc.  Does this mean I'm paying for myself at the party?  Because it's one thing if they can't afford to pay for me but if that is true.... I kind of want say in where we go and what we do if I have to pay for myself.   I don't really want to be surprised with something I have to pay for.  

 However, about a month ago, she asked me how much I drink when I go out and I said usually about two drinks and she said "oh good because Bridesmaid A and I were a little worried about paying for your drinks but it should be ok as long as you don't drink a lot".  So, maybe she meant that for the other bridesmaids have to pay for themselves and not for me?  I kind of want to ask but I can't really think of a polite way to ask her about this.  I don't want to sound rude or greedy.  I've talked to her recently and she asked me if I got the email and I said yes but she didn't say anything else.  What would you guys do? 

Re: Bachelorette Party paying for myself?

  • edited December 2011
    I don't know about that one. Thats a toughy. I bet that they are paying for you since she has asked you about it. Maybe if you really want to know talk to her in person and just say that you noticed that we are paying for ourselves and wanted to know how much you should be prepared with. And then she will prob say oh no thats for the other girls attending, not you I just wanted you to see the evite. And if she tells you a number ask her what you are doing.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-central-florida_bachelorette-party-paying-myself?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:66Discussion:d843ef87-52d8-4543-9d8c-0c768c726e99Post:d7066ba6-d9cd-484f-bf14-379f9d39d529">Re: Bachelorette Party paying for myself?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Just say that you noticed that we are paying for ourselves and wanted to know how much you should be prepared with. And then she will prob say oh no thats for the other girls attending, not you I just wanted you to see the evite. And if she tells you a number ask her what you are doing.
    Posted by mlharbis[/QUOTE]

    <div>I like that idea.</div>
  • AileeneGAileeneG member
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    edited December 2011
    That's exactly what I would do as well. Ask under the assumption that you are paying and then let her correct you or not. :)
  • edited December 2011
    Haha yeah, I would do that, too. It is the sneaky way around just asking straight out.
  • edited December 2011
    I agree with pp. 

    I know the last 2 bachelorette parties I have been to we paid for the bride.  We each pitched for her dinner and then took turn paying for the bride's drinks.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-central-florida_bachelorette-party-paying-myself?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:66Discussion:d843ef87-52d8-4543-9d8c-0c768c726e99Post:d7066ba6-d9cd-484f-bf14-379f9d39d529">Re: Bachelorette Party paying for myself?</a>:
    [QUOTE]... talk to her in person and just say that you noticed that we are paying for ourselves and wanted to know how much you should be prepared with. [/QUOTE]<div>
    Exactly the advice I was about to give :)

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