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Do I HAVE to pay for...?

I just got a quote from my salon for hair on the wedding day.  For two people, I got a quote of $80 for the bride, $45 for everyone else (bridesmaids, etc.), $25 for the flowergirl.  Do I have to pay for all of the bridesmaids to get their hair done?  I'm not wanting an up-do or anything for them, just waves/curls.  I have 8 bridesmaids, which translates to $360.  I figure I HAVE to pay for my mom and my mother-in-law's hair, which would be another $90.  So, if I were to pay for everyone's hair (including mine) it would be $555!  Whew!  Do ya'll think I can get away with just paying for the mother's?  How do these prices compare to what you've been quoted?

Re: Do I HAVE to pay for...?

  • edited December 2011
    I'm not paying for anyone else to get their hair or make up done- but I'm also not "making" them get their hair done. It was their choice so it's something they'll pay for. Might be a little un-traditional but I can't afford to pay for them as we're on a really tight budget. My prices were $60 for hair regarldess of if you were the bride or not so your prices seem good.
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  • sarah42ndsarah42nd member
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    edited December 2011
    If your "making " then get there hair done then yes you should pay for it .

    But if your making it an option then no you don't have to pay for it.
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  • Theresa626Theresa626 member
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    edited December 2011
    You don't have to pay for your bridesmaids hair but if you don't pay, you can't require them to go to a professional salon or tell them who they have to go to.  You can ask if they can do their hair up or down but as far as whether they do it themselves or get it professionally done, you can't control that if you don't pay.  What you can do is ask them if they would like to get their hair done because you want to reserve times at the salon where you are getting your hair done if they are interested and tell them the price.  If they say no, then they are responsible for getting their own hair done.  
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  • AileeneGAileeneG member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with the previous comments.  Give them the option to do their own hair, go to a salon, or pay a person themselves. In the getting ready room the day of the wedding, I had someone who could do hair and makeup and it was the girls' option if they wanted her to do something, but even though she was there I did have one bridesmaid that  wanted to go to a salon on her own because she had a busy schedule that morning,so it was more convenient for her.
  • edited December 2011
    I was in a wedding once where the bride made me a hair appointment right before hers, and didn't really communicate anything about the paying situation. I kind of assumed she was paying. At the end she paid for just hers and I was just like...umm? I paid but it was slightly awkward and very tacky.
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  • edited December 2011
    All of my bridesmaids did their own thing w/ their hair, including the mothers. Some went professional, some just curled it at home. I also didn't tell them how to do their hair (they all have much better style than me so I trusted them!) so it made it easier from them to decide. If you tell them waves and curls, are there any who might mess that up if done on their own (I SUCK at giving myself spiral curls for instance)? If so, you might have to pay for it to be done right. It depends on how much you care about how they look.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-central-florida_pay?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:66Discussion:ebd61c37-e7aa-4b58-8f84-b51bdd0c8af1Post:2a08629a-ecb2-44c0-a24f-d1c53c82beda">Re: Do I HAVE to pay for...?</a>:
    [QUOTE]If you tell them waves and curls, are there any who might mess that up if done on their own (I SUCK at giving myself spiral curls for instance)? If so, you might have to pay for it to be done right. It depends on how much you care about how they look.
    Posted by therockisblinding05[/QUOTE]

    <div>Ditto this. Depending on the girls you may be better off letting them wear their hair more natrual or having someone do it for them. I know my little sister can't afford to have her hair done, and I probably can't afford to get it done professionally... but I also known it would be a disaster if I left it up to her and a curling iron. So my cousin has volunteered to do something with her hair so she doesn't have to pay for it, but it will still look nice. </div>
  • SarahSmile23SarahSmile23 member
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    edited December 2011
    i can honestly say that on my wedding day i did not care what my BMs hair looked like. i don't think it's worth the money to pay for them to have their hair done. they can figure it out and help each other, especially since you just want curls!
  • edited December 2011
    I left it up to my girls (told them the prices for hair and make-up) and told them to let me know if they wanted to me to make them appointments.  We had the hair and make-up done at my mom's house (Patricia LeJuene rocked!) and they ALL opted to have both hair and make-up done with me.  It was the best morning!! But they chose how they wanted their hair to be done and the only thing I asked was that they have fun, dramatic eye make-up.  They were all excited about that and they all looked smokin' hot! lol :)

    The best thing you can do is communicate with them your expectations and if they are going to need to pay for something let them know ahead of time.  It saves a lot of trouble and they appreciate the choice and respect.  :)
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  • edited December 2011
    I think I am going to leave it up to my bridesmaids.  If they want to have their hair done then I will get them pricing and make the appointments (since most are coming from out of state).

    I do plan to pay to have their make-up done if they want it.
  • edited December 2011
    I agree with everyone else. I am a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding this month and she gave us the option of getting our hair and makeup professionally done. I decided just to be easy and have it done professionally so I think for both hair & makeup it'll be around $110? Sounds like $45 per bridesmaid is a pretty good price. Just a note: one of the girls is going to MAC the day of the wedding and she said if you buy $50 worth of makeup, they will do your makeup for free.
  • jmucheech21jmucheech21 member
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    edited December 2011
    I find this so interesting.  Every wedding I have ever been in not only did the bride NOT pay for our hair and make-up, but the bridesmaids paid for THE BRIDES' hair, make up, and mani/pedi.  I never assumed anyone would pay for mine, its just what I have always known as the norm.  I guess not !!!
  • edited December 2011
    jmuch, I've never seen that. Maybe you should have been in my wedding! :) haha. I paid for my BMs to have pedis as part of their thank you. Turned into a pretty fun spa day but some of my bridesmaid's did pay for me to have dinner and see Eclipse the day before the rehearsal lol.
  • jmucheech21jmucheech21 member
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    edited December 2011
    Haha, yeah right?!  Apparently my friends and I have been spoiling these brides!!!  I just always looked at it as part of the expenses of being in a bridal party.  It was never really a question of "if" we would do it.. we were just always kind of told "this is how much money we'll each need to chip in for this.."  
  • edited December 2011
    My prices are the same for everyone and I am paying 65 for hair and 50 for regular make up or 75 for air brush so I would say that you are getting a really good deal. My stylist requires 2 people because she has to travel so I am just going to get my daughter's hair done bc she is the flowergirl and she will be wearing a tiera or something. I am not requiring my BMs to get their hair done bc they are all spending a lot of money to come 1200 miles down here and paying for hotels and dresses. One of the stylists that I talked to said that she required 5 ppl bc I am getting married on Valentines Day? Hair and make up. That came out to about 600 so I am obviously not going with her. So I think you are getting a really good deal. Who are you using?
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  • AileeneGAileeneG member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddings.com/Sites/Weddings/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-central-florida_pay?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:66Discussion:ebd61c37-e7aa-4b58-8f84-b51bdd0c8af1Post:fbdcfae6-5603-4ac4-9eb3-7f4dc0030248">Re: Do I HAVE to pay for...?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I find this so interesting.  Every wedding I have ever been in not only did the bride NOT pay for our hair and make-up, but the bridesmaids paid for THE BRIDES' hair, make up, and mani/pedi.  I never assumed anyone would pay for mine, its just what I have always known as the norm.  I guess not !!!
    Posted by jmucheech21[/QUOTE]

    Yeah, I'd say you guys have been spoiling them, but that's a really nice thing to do for the bride! I've never seen that in any of the weddings I've been in though.
  • edited December 2011
    I have an On Location Hair and Makeup business and the prices you were quoted were more than reasonable, actually quite a bit less than industry standard so you are getting a good deal that way.

    I've seen photos of large wedding parties where some girls got their makeup professionally done and unfortunately since they photograph so much better than the bridesmaids that didn't, it really makes the ones that DIY look not nearly as nice.

    Some of my brides pay half as a bridesmaid's gift which leaves the each giril in the bridal party to pay $30 and that's a lot more reasonable for you and them!

    If budget is key than let everyone do their own hair and makeup (there's usually one or two girls in the group that can help out the rest) but if you are spending a lot on the photographer than professional hair and makeup is a total necessity since you don't want an expensive album full of bad hair and makeup.

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