I am getting married in one month. My fiance is Filipino, I am not. We are having a traditional Catholic mass/ Filipino ceremony. During our meeting with the priest, we discussed the order of the ceremony, including lighting of the candles. The priest says the whole significance of the candles is the joining of two families. That is why our mothers light a candle each, and from those flames, we light our unity candle together. My future mother in law already picked all of the sponsors, including the candle sponsors - one is the girlfriend of one of my fiance's family members, and the other is my fiance's cousin. My mother in law wants the candle sponsors to light the candles, but the priest says the whole point is for our mothers to do it. Now they are discuissing having two different sets of candles on the altar - one set for the mothers and one set for the candle sponsors, and we are to light our unity candle with the flames from the candles our mothers lit. This all sounds too confusing to have all these candles on the altar. Should my mother in law have chosen a representative from each of our families to be the candle sponsors, that way it would resemble more of "the joining of two families"? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.