Honeymoon etiquette advice needed!

kris7983

My fiance's family graciously offered to fund our honeymoon.  What I don't really know is a good way to figure out a price range. Also, if you aren't staying at an all-inclusive sort of spot, do you then need to plan on funding the rest out of pocket? I know it is likely a case-by-case basis, but I don't have any clue what sort of price I should shoot for since it isn't my family.

Thanks!

monkeysip

If his parents have already offered, it's okay to ask them for a budget.  FI could do this alone, or you both could do it together if you want.  Either way, FI should take the lead since it's his parents.

Just make sure it's real casual, like "I know you both wanted to help with our honeymoon, so we'd like to start looking at places now and wanted to know what our budget should be."  

Once you figure out your budget and pick a place, you can talk to them about whether they'd rather book things for you (and pay) or just give you money so you guys can book it yourself.  If you're not at an AI, you'll need some spending money for food, activities, etc, so just make sure that it's in the budget and his parents are okay with giving you this.  

sweetcanadian1979

I agree with pp, just ask them, let them know you do not want to assume & book outside what they are thinking, also if they just give you money & you want to do something more expensive you can add to it vs them buying it for you.

JCWhitey

You can also ask them if they have suggestions.  They be thinking along the same lines as you are as far as destination goes and you can look at places together so they see what the actual cost will be.  Then you don't have to get an actual dollar amount, just let them see what it costs and guage their reaction.

I'd say if it's not all-inclusive you will probably have to pay for expenses out of pocket.  But, again, it all depends on what they actually offer.  If they just say "Here's $2,000 for your honeymoon" then that's what you have to play iwth.

alithebride

have FI ask his parents what the budget is and go from there.

jaso2012

Definitely ask for a budget! That wouldn't be rude at all. Then if you decide you want to do a few extras and pay for them on your own, you can.