Nervous about wedding night

lmagnani711

We are going to San Diego for our honeymoon, and we are leaving right aafter the reception... We have waited to be together intimatly until we are married, and I am started to get very nervous, as to what to expect.  I want to look nice, I am trying to think how the night will go as soon as we arrive at our hotel (its a 3 hour drive) any advice? Thanks!

LaFemmeRousse

Hello!  Try not to be nervous   First of all, here's a similar post that happened on this board recently that will help to answer some of your questions and address your feelings of being nervous/not knowing what to expect:

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_wedding-night-first-time

Secondly, I imagine that you and your FI will be very tired after the ceremony, reception, and a three-hour drive to your honeymoon destination.  If you're willing to do this, I would highly recommend waiting until the next morning, when you are both rested and relaxed, to actually be intimate for the first time.

pandasquishy

Use lube, try to relax, and you'll be fine.  It won't be the best sex ever, but you have a whole lifetime to figure it out.

maratea

YGPM

Moneypenny424

Hi!  Just relax and enjoy yourself.  I agree that waiting until the next day might be good, depending on how you and FI feel after a long day.  Lube is good (I recommend Liquid Silk) and just take it slow.  Like PP said, you'll have a lifetime to perfect it

spinner84

I third the motion about lube! I recommend Astroglide liquid - the gellies are kind of gross IMO.

I have no idea how much you have waited to do, but you might want to check out this article: http://dodsonandross.com/sexfeature/penetrating-your-vagina-first-time. If you  haven't penetrated your vagina (with your fingers or his or something else!) it will almost definitely hurt. If you are used to the concept (which can be scary in itself), as well as the sensation, it will be a lot easier.

And remember - it is guaranteed not to be the best sex you will have - everything is uphill from that first time!

spinner84

You should also be ready with a reliable form of birth control that you know how to use (unless you want babies right away, but honestly, you deserve a chance to enjoy sex for a bit IMO).

For BC pills, that means go on them a month ahead of time. With condoms, you should know how to put it on but he should also practice ahead of time...