Registry info on bridal shower invite?

ileanasanz

I know it's not suppose to be in the wedding invite, but can it be included in the bridal shower invitation? I've looked it up and have seen mixed answers...

michimich810

Usually the place you register at will give you little cards that you're registered there. You can include those instead of writing it. I know my MOH is writing it in the invites. Maybe just including those cards will be OK

PattyJose

I know, ive read mixed answers too. But I will be placing the mini registry cards that the store gave me for my bridal shower invites, not the wedding invites. HTH.

lgrn22

Yes, I think definitely include in the invite.

lyndopo

I think it's fine to include them in the bridal shower invite. However, I've heard it's poor etiquette to put it on/with the wedding invite. But if your people aren't fancy schmancy then so what?

Squeaky00

I would definately put it in the bridal shower invite,  I mean why do people have bridal showers to get gifts and enjoy the pre wedding clebration.

ARod22

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-south-florida_registry-info-bridal-shower-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:67Discussion:0bc53c0d-3231-40bf-9df0-c5aab1a1f87fPost:79f7900d-44bf-42d8-979e-7fa337539b69">Re: Registry info on bridal shower invite?</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it's fine to include them in the bridal shower invite. <strong>However, I've heard it's poor etiquette to put it on/with the wedding invite. But if your people aren't fancy schmancy then so what? =)</strong>
Posted by lyndopo[/QUOTE]

<div>Major faux pas.  Sorry for being long, but it has to be said just to clarify for anyone who is misled about registry cards.  Cliffnotes: Yes, the shower hostess can absolutely put registry info into the shower invitations.  This is actually expected. Including registry info in wedding invitations: horribly, unspeakably rude.  Sorry.</div><div>
</div><div>This rule has nothing to do with fanciness.  It it matter of being polite.  Being invited to a wedding is an honor, as your guests are being asked to witness a special moment in your lives.  The reception is a way of thanking your guests by feeding them, greeting them, and entertaining them.  Your guests are NEVER to be asked to give you a gift for your wedding, nor should you ever suggest it or hint at it (even though it's common etiquette on their side to get your something).  Putting registry info into wedding invitations is very tacky, regardless of how formal and fancy or informal your wedding and your guests tend to be.  Please, no one treat your wedding like a gift giving event.  </div><div>
</div><div>Think about it: if you were having a birthday party, would you put "I like things from Macy's and could really use some gift card credit from Starbucks" anywhere on any written or oral invitation??  That's horribly rude, because even though the party is in your honor, and people generally do give gifts, what kind of a person does or says such a thing??  Weddings are similar in this regard.</div><div>
</div><div>But to answer the OP's question, showers are very very different. The shower is held by someone other than the bride, and it is by its very definition a gift giving party in the bride's honor (the name "shower" means "to shower someone with gifts."  The reason for holding a shower is to give the bride things she could use to establish a new home)  The nature of the party suggests that gift giving is the entire point of attendance, so including registry info in these envelopes is perfectly appropriate.  Just make sure it is the actual shower hostess who sends these invitations, not you, the bride.</div>

ARod22

PS- Don't be fooled by department stores who give out registry cards and tell you it's OK to put them into wedding invitations.  They just want to make money.  Duh.

Jeni10csc

ARod 22 explained it perfectly:

Shower invites - it's the point of having a shower - to give gifts. So definitely include.
Wedding Invites - NEVER!

Just a hint and a tip...
The invitations to my shower say at the bottom:
"For registry information, visit www.ourweddingwebsite.com&quot;
That allowed me the flexibility to change or edit registries as I  wanted before the shower.

Shuutnstar

What MOH & I did for the shower was, I created a Wedding Website insert (print at home business cards) that had the Wedding Website on one side and Target Club Wedd Registry info on the back.

For the Wedding, I included the insert but with only the Wedding Website info... but there is a Registry tab on my planning page. Smart huh? A llt of people told me they loved the website after they got their invites.

I did have a lot of people who had asked where we were registered... turns out some people don't read the inserts anyway.

Oh well! Gifts are fun, but thats not why we got married!