One of my maids of honor sent me a message on facebook and I thought I would share...stressed me out need to share...
. I can't deal with Jennifer, she just plans everything, then calls me in the middle of the night and basically tells me to do my part, she proceeds to say "o i'll pay for everythin, I got it" I make suggestions and because she doesn't like them completly disregards them. Yes we did lose contact, but I had emailed her, facebooked her trying to get in contact with her, I have also texted. But she seems to think her problems are bigger then mine and her life is more important. She also thinks throwing money at everything solves all problems. I say kareoke she says no we will do miami, I say wine tour she says puerto rico cause she has a contact. I say "o I can contact the other girls and she says "no I'll do it cause I know them".
She just told me about the bridal shower and its a Tiffany theme she already took it upon herself to order everything and do it at her house acting like I haven't done sh#t. And you know what maybe I haven't because she HATES all my ideas. I wanted Mary Poppins, or a tea bar in Park slope,etc....just ideas but she took it ALL over and is treating me like sh°t cause she planned it all and I didn't help her because I didn't know what the f°ck she was doing. I said I think we should do it at Nancy's house and she said your backyard was ghetto. she already booked the food, bar tenders, decorations, etc.....she paid for it all and treats me like I'm poor. Its all about money for her, she is a stuck-up bitch.
She has planned all of this and there is nothing I can do about it. I plan on doing my own specail thing with you, I will go along with all her plans and help her where ever I can. I will be polite and nice and follow all her instructions, amd the only reason I won't knock her the f°ck out is because I love you and you WILL have a drama FREE wedding. It will be nice and memorable. Please don't start drama by telling her all this, let's just keep this btw me and you PLEASE she already got snippy on the phone as she told me to pick up the slack. Great I'm glad I got that out of the way.
I feel so BAD. I had a feeling this would happen with them. The one who wrote this has been my best friend for 25 years (this is our silver anniversary year) and my other best friend has been my best friend for like 22 years. I LOVE them both. I didn't want to be that person with 2 MOH but how could I choose one over the other (this is when a sister would have come in handy or a close cousin that lives in the country!) I had told my 25 year BM to stand up to the other BM right from the start and not to let her takeover (as I knew she would).
Any advice? Should I just stay out of it?