Bridal Shower: who's invited?

murrc2 · July 2009

Hi Girls...my bridesmaids want a list of who I want to be invited to the bridal shower. My question is do you invite out of town family and friends who probably won't make it? I don't want to look like I'm soliciting gifts but I also don't want anyone to feel left out. Thanks, Cathy

courtneybrooke921 · July 2009

This is tough!! I am going through the same thing. I ended up sending an email to OOT guests letting them know the date and that they are welcome to come IF they can.... the one's that can come will get an invite

LIL Vero · July 2009

Good Question! I am in the same boat. I would tell you if they are close to you and you want them there, then yes send the invitations.

MichiBolooki · July 2009

I only invited the guests that live in Florida because otherwise the list would practically be as long as the wedding list! IMO, I wouldn't invite OOT guests unless they are close relatives or in the bridal party. HTH

oyepooh · July 2009

I would keep it to people who are local (or maybe within the state) and any OOT close family members or friends. If you're not sure, send the invite and then maybe follow it up with an email explaining that they should receive the invite soon and you know they may not be able to come but you didn't want them to feel left out.

JillianLL · July 2009

In my opinion, I would invite OOT just to let them know you think of them as close friends and would want them to be there if they could. They wont feel like youre fishing for a gift bc if they were closer they would come...with a gift. My SIL had hers in Philly, I was invited but couldnt go. Same with my other girlfriend. Hers was in NJ and I couldnt go. I sent gifts to both bc I knew they really wanted me there and I wanted them to have personal gifts from me bc I felt bad that I couldnt go. Just my experience though...

photonbug · July 2009

I would not see it as fishing for gifts. I would wonder why I didn't get an invite.

gb28 · July 2009

Hi Cathy:) I was wondering the same thing a couple of months ago...I asked my wedding planner and she said that every woman that is invited to the wedding, should be invited to the Bridal Shower. OOT and Local. She said it was the proper thing to do. She said that it is expected of the Bride to invite all women to participate in a very special day. And dont worry, about the gifts it does not seem like you are just inviting to receive gifts, the wedding guest (females) are actually expecting this invitation. I hope this helps. And dont worry it might seem like a lot of people (women) coming but its not...for me it will be 60 bridal shower guest out of a 150wedding day guest list.: ) Gaby