A quickie: rant.

TheJennius

I am pretty sure my fiance told me not use the word "quickie" too much because it meant something else ... oh well!Anyway. I just wanted to vent real quick because I am on my way to church (choir rehearsal lalala) and I could use the ranting.Back in May of this year, i graduated from college, so my parents threw me a smallish graduation party. The idea started by having family and a few friends over at my house for a barbecue. Not amazed, this idea escalated all the way to having a 40 people sit down dinner and party at the Marriott in Parkland.Before you say anything, this was great practice for wedding planning. Anywho. I invited my friends from church. One of this friends is a girl who got married last year (I was a BM. I was assigned said position. I was basically told by the MOH that I had no option. Charming.), and while I do consider her my friend, she sometimes makes me wonder wtf is wrong with humanity.One Sunday she asks me "So do you have a venue for your grad party?" so I said "Yeah, the Marriott near my house."She made a face of sorts and said that she herself had gotten a quote from that same place for her wedding last year and it was "way too expensive".I blinked.Then I replied something along the lines of "Well, your wedding was much larger than a simple grad party! Hehe, the room is small, it's just 30 something people, ya know."I'd like to thank the Academy. A few years back I would have snapped back, but I held myself quite well in comparison to the rant and I let it slide.However as my wedding planning becomes imminent I don't want to face the same crappy comments not only from her but from other people. And a bit of confession wednesday here: SERIOUSLY? Ay. So far when people ask I have seen myself forced to fib. I just say "Oh it's too early to plan! I have a lot of time." I don't want to say anything until invitations are out, because some people just don't know what to say, or how to shut up.Grgrgr. I go now. Sorry the quickie wasn't quick at all! Lol, see you all pretty ladies around

zobo410

No snapping back just say "and that's why you're not invited". Smile turn and walk away. Beautiful. People are so dumb.

avee10

I completely get where you are coming from.  I am the last of my friends to get married. When they all got married they were fortunate enough to  have both sets of parents contribute to their weddings.  Therefore, their weddings were huge fancy affairs.  FI will be paying for our wedding ourselves and since we are insisting on paying everything cash, we are on a very small budget.  I already have most of my wedding planned mostly because our small budget really narrowed down our choices for vendors.  My friends are already making comments about the reception site, photographer, etc.  I learned my lesson so now I just tell people I have some places in mind but that the wedding is still almost a year away so I havent finalized anything yet.I really hate how people feel like they just have to give you their opinion!

Kitty315

I just don't tell people anything. They already think I'm a jerk so no better time to take advantage of that and say "that's personal" or something to that effect. It also helps that I don't have anything booked. =\ But about your friend.. when you inquire about prices for a gruaduation party, you get prices for a seated dinner. It's considerably cheaper than when she inquired for prices. Why? Because you didn't say the magic word: wedding.

TheJennius

LMAO I've been through the whole jerk thing, too. Sometimes life is simpler that way. You could say I had a change of heart the past year or so. But yeah, I just don't say anything at all, and if asked, now I fib. If I could stun gun every person that crosses the line with their busybody comments ...

MichiBolooki

Welcome to wedding planning People have opinions about EVERYTHING. I learned to keep my mouth shut too over the last year and a half. Sometimes you tell people things and instead of being happy for you they get jealous or judgmental. Good thing you learned to fib or keep your mouth shut early on!

goldie3474

take this as a fabulous opportunity to find out who your true friends are, I have been amazed (and not in a good way) at how some of the people closest to me have reacted to what should be a very happy time in my life. Don't feel bad for not telling them, you are not obligated to tell anyone anything ... keep your personal and special wedding details to yourself esp if they are the jealous type.

TheJennius

You guys are right! I understand from so many of my close friends that they just want to help by offering their "connections" or their opinions on what kind of dress I should really get for my big hips (yeah, they went there -_-), but sometimes A BRIDE JUST WANTS TO BE LEFT ALONE.Oh, if I were to tell the things I went through last year as a BM ... lol. (Don't get me wrong, though! It wasn't horrible just ... funny.) My true friends have been more than supportive and have made me snap out of borderline Bridezilla moments. I am truly thankful for them!