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Ayyy... Abuela!

Jessi312Jessi312
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in Florida-South Florida
So my family is Cuban and as Cuban's they believe that a female does not leave her parents house until she gets married.  Not a day before!  Well, my fiance and I are indulging in the ultimate sin!  We are going to live together BEFORE we get married!!  OMG... end of the world!  The prices are right and we are getting a fab deal!  Not to mention, we are paying for our own wedding (October2010) and we can't exactly take on a wedding and a new home ALL at once.  What do you guys think?
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Re: Ayyy... Abuela!

  • twinkle82576twinkle82576 member
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Go for it!!! FI and I are doing the same. My parents are all for it, but I can just imagine now what the grandparents are going to say!
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  • YHFoxtrotYHFoxtrot
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    edited December 2011
    That's such a personal thing but times have changed and in my mind there is nothing wrong with it. But I'm not cuban nor religious. I say if you want  to, GO FOR IT!
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  • TheJenniusTheJennius
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    edited December 2011
    Craig and I come from families who believe the same thing as your abuela. We like it that way, we strive to make it work that way. But that doesn't mean everybody has to roll the same way.This decision is as personal as you want to make it. If you don't feel 100% comfortable with it, don't do it. Everybody is entitled to their own opinions, but in the end, who is going to live in that house and pay for her own wedding is you.Good luck!
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Jess my family is the same way. FI and I put an offer on a condo and are waiting for it to get approved. I'm assuming we might close on it closer to the wedding so it wouldn't be too bad, but my mom is already saying "well, once you close, you guys can do some fixing on it and then move in the day AFTER the wedding" lol...FI and I just laugh. I guess we're going to see how it plays out and see what we do. I don't think its a bad idea to move in already. Maybe you and FI can have a talk with the family and explain to them that now is the best time for you both and you would like for them to understand. Besides, you're already engaged and have a date for the wedding so you won't be "living in sin" for too long ;)
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  • murrc2murrc2 member
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    edited December 2011
    I say go for it!  I understand about traditions but if the timing is right for you guys than everything happens for a reason.  FI and have been living together for almost 5 years and I think sometimes its a good thing to live together first.
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  • Kitty315Kitty315 member
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    edited December 2011
    I hear you on the Cuban/religious thing. But for a second I thought this was gonna be about "Que Pasa USA?" with the Ayy.. Abuela comment. =PWhen FI and I were going to move in together I talked with my mom and her first reaction was to purse her lips.. cross her ams.. look out the window, then look at me and ask "Do you guys plan on getting married?" "We want to see how we get along first. I wouldn't want to marry the guy and find out we can't live with each other!" That softened her up a little since her marriage wasn't so great.. or the moron he turned out to be. She said it was a good idea to do that since marriage didn't work out so well for her. Poor mommy. =(I'm all for it. Buy your house now if you guys want to and are ready and then worry about the wedding. It's not as uncommon as they would think. But you know older Cubans.. tradition and all. Gotta love 'em, though. =)
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  • Karamel99Karamel99 member
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    edited December 2011
    Andrew & I are closing on our first home next week AND are paying for our January 23, 2010 wedding. It's extremely stressful, but I think it's SO worth it. If you're getting an awesome deal, go for it!
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  • avee10avee10 member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    If its what you and FI truly want to do, then GO FOR IT!Good luck!
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    edited December 2011
    I feel you girl... We closed on our place a couple of weeks ago...and its sitting there. We are going to move in after the wedding. For now we are just working on it and getting it ready. For me, its a personal choice. Yes, my cuban family would have a MEGA tittieeee attackkkk if I chose to move in now. But to me, its like... if you're already living together then what do you have to look forward to when you get married? (I am NOT judging anyone! please dont take it the wrong way, its a personal choice for everyone to make) We already "do" everything else married people do right? (Suki, suki now...) so really, IMO living together is the last shred I have of "something new" for after the wedding. Oh, Cubans. :/
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  • millenia98millenia98
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    edited December 2011
    AY DIOS. Abuela, por favor :)
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  • Jessi312Jessi312
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    edited December 2011
    As long as my Mom and Dad aren't bothered I really dont care... Abuela is SUPER OLD SCHOOl!  Dad even forbade (i think that's right) her from mentioning it to me... LOL!  Closing is at the beginning of November... WooHoo!
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  • Tiffayqp12Tiffayqp12
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    My FI is Cuban and we went through the same thing when we moved in together. Even his sister gave us crap (still does). But for the most part, everyone has gotten over it . We love living together and I wouldn't change it for the world.
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  • millenia98millenia98
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    edited December 2011
    Tiffany, your FI is cuban...and what's your ethnicity?  :)  Just curious
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  • Tiffayqp12Tiffayqp12
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    edited December 2011
    I'm just a whitey whitey :)
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