Sooo, sticky question, my mom (oh boy) decided that she would throw me a bridal shower. Ok, fine whatever, I wasn't too keen on it, but she seemed excited and it got her off my back about being more involved in the wedding. Now, after she has spent a bit more than she intended (par for the course with her) she wants my bridesmaids to chip in something. Bridesmaids who are all either in grad school or just finished and not yet employed... aka, little to no $$ to spare. I want them to be able to use that money towards their other wedding expenses, such as hair, make-up, shoes, hotel room, etc. I don't want to ask them, because I don't want them to feel guilty like they need to contribute. They didn't help plan the shower, they are not acting as hosts, I think that means they shouldn't have to 'chip in' anything. Period. What is a nice way to tell my mom to get her head out of her a$$ and stop acting like the world revolves around her? My girls don't have extra cash to spare, and they're all super sweet and will feel like they have to put something in if I ask them. A couple offered to come early to help prep stuff and set up, which is so awesome of them, and I don't want them or my mom to think that means they need to put money towards anything for the shower. They did not help in planning anything, and my mom (according to the shower invites) is the host, not them. Help!