losing enthusiasm

kimandjosh22

I'm finding that my response to more and more things is "I don't care" does anyone else feel this way? we'll have been engaged for 2 years this weekend and I've reached the point of just wanting to be married...and not wanting to think about the actual wedding anymore.  Am I alone? any tips to re-energize?

LADY324

I feel that way sometimes too.  We will also be engaged for 23 months by the time we get married.  I just want to be married already!!  At our tasting we had to choose an ice sculpture and our cake.  I just looked at my FI and both of our parents and said I don't care you guys choose lol.  I am over making anymore decisions!!  Luckily we don't have too many more decisions to make!!

penny12986

Gotta be honest, I lost my enthusiasm a long time ago.  It's why I have been posting less and less.  I can only talk about shoes and centerpieces so long.

I love the idea of the wedding and being married to FI but all of the small things are getting in the way so I have chosen to ignore them.

I would just tell you to enjoy this time as much as you can because it only happens once and it will be over sooner than you think.

BmoreBride311

There are things I care about and things I don't. Like LADY, I feel like there's not a lot left to decide on anyway. I think getting the RSVPs back each day is keeping my excitement going, at this point.

mekiakoo

Well, I'm typically laid back and usually if somebody has an idea or opinion, I just say "sure, whatever". It's not that I have no enthusiasm, but that I REALLY don't care either way. I will be happy with whatever.

I just feel like this makes everything easier by being flexible. FMIL always told me that if a person cares about something more than the other person then just let the person decide.

bells24412

Like you and Lady I have been engaged for what will be 2 years and 2 weeks by the time the wedding rolls around so yes I completely understand where you are coming from because when people ask me if I am excited for the wedding the only thing I know how to say besides not being rude and telling them to leave me alone is No, I am just ready to be married. To answer your question, I have lost my motivation a while ago.

LammChop

hahaha to be honest....Im sick of my wedding! I wanna do something else and now that we are 2 months until. My FI's soooooo excited.Well bout time huh! So Im letting him do his thing, and Im taking a long nap.

kimandjosh22

I think my long (boring) days at work are adding fuel to that fire too. There are so many things I feel like I'm putting of 'til after the wedding, and somedays I really question why I'm doing that.

janeneo

You hit the nail on the head.  I haven't been posting, because wedding planning stopped being fun.  My family is fighting, my Mom's sisters are ready to brawl at my reception (literally, not figuratively), and my Mom is so concerned what everyone else will think that what FI and I want doesn't really matter anymore.  Apparently, I humiliated her because for my generation the invites went out with the wife's first name too.     

I actually have security for my reception because my aunts are saying things like "this will be my only chance to retaliate, and if she rips my dress or throws a drink in my face I'm not walking away."  I want to hurl just at typing that out.  I've grown up with these holier than thou hypocrites acting like 2 year olds my entire life, and seen them make scenes at other weddings. I actually hesitated inviting co-workers and other professionals I'm friends with because I'm afraid they will witness it.

The silver lining is that my FI has my back at all times, he keeps me sane, and its strengthened our "its us against the world" mentaility  We make a great team.

I keep telling myself that as long as we are married by the end of the day, I will consider it a success.  I'm so glad we have such a nice honeymoon to look forward too because I am dreading everything else.