Guest List

LaMaFa

Sooo.... has anyone else's guest list gotten out of control? My parents are paying for the venue, food & alcohol, super awesome, but I feel like every time I turn around they're adding yet another person to the list. I guess I figure at 3 months out with the invitations planned to go out this week my parents need to just accept if they missed someone and send an announcement afterwards (they've added almost 20 people in the last 2 weeks). Is anyone else having an issue with their guest list growing unexpectedly? What did you do/are you doing about it?

DorkyGirl17

Aw man, that sucks about the guest list expanding at the last minute, but then again a woo hoo for parents paying for it :-)  That must be frustrating though with more people being added on.  I'm sure if we were having our wedding locally we'd have to deal with random add-ons too. 

We actually have a few who went from yes's to no's (invites are going out by Monday prob.)- a good friend found out she's pregnant (so happy for her!) buttt she's due Christmastime and I'm thinking it'll be cutting it too close so her and her husband I doubt can go and my one MOH separated from her husband (who we all loved and FI actually almost asked him to be a groomsmen right before the separation) so there's another no. 

janellaj

I know the feeling. I'm in the same boat. I'm just trying to chill out and live with it as my Dad wasn't budging on the issue. He really wants to invite all these people. We're thinking that most won't come as thier out of state.

poultryprincess

The first thing I do when friends are getting married is tell them to trim the guest list. Then, once they've trimmed it, trim it again. Its the same story every time - "My parents are paying, so they want to (and should be allowed to) invite everyone they want". Then they complain that they didnt have the band that they wanted or the photographer they really loved because the budget didnt allow it.

My wedding was pretty small and tame - and there were STILL 18 couples that my husband and I didn't know. At all. Never met. At close to a hundred bucks a head. My husband and I paid for much of the wedding, but my folks pitched in too. The $3000 that we spoent on those people that we didnt know could have gotten us the better cake, the nicer dress or even a MUCH better honeymoon. Money well wasted, i say.

After the fact, my folks totally agreed that they shouldnt have invited those family friends. 

Yet, almost all of us fall into that trap.