Okay, so I don't want kids at our wedding. We are having a very small wedding of 50 of our closest friends and family, so it only makes sense to me that we only invite those who can understand the significance of the wedding day...i.e. adults.
Well, FI wanted his niece at the wedding, and he went ahead and invited her without telling me (even though he knew I didn't want kids in attendance)...I found out when the rsvp came...keep in mind we haven't even sent out invitations, but his mother rsvp'ed on our website for herself, his stepfather, his sister and his niece.
I decided to let the invite to his niece slide...I understand why he wants her there, even though I'd prefer an adult-only affair.
Well, now he's saying he wants her as a flower girl! Even if I wanted kids in attendance, I still wouldn't want kids in the bridal party. I think the bridal party should be made up of those people who have supported you most, and whom will also will support you in your marriage...and no 5 year-old can quite live up to that imao!
FI told me that I can't make all the decisions, and called me a "knotzi" Yes, that's right, a nazi knottie. I tried to explain to him that we are compromising about this already: I don't even want the child in attendance, but I am allowing her to attend, so he should compromise about having her in the wedding party. He said he still wants her to be a flower girl.
To top it all off, this kid is a terror. As in failing-out-of-kindergarten-because-she's-that-bad-at-following-directions terror. She directly defies her teacher, and even runs out of the classroom and outside when she doesn't want to do what she's told. Even if I wanted a flower girl, I certainly wouldn't choose a badly behaved one! If she did misbehave, FI and I are the only ones who could put her in her place, because we're the only family members who don't put up with her crap...and I don't really feel like spending my wedding day as a disciplinarian.
Anyway, I just wanted to express my frustration. Maybe I AM a knotzi!