your personal opinion...i dont know where to post this

future mrsCDC

Hi,
So after weeks of trying to figure out how we were going to get money to pay for a wedding and trying to talk ourselves into a ton of money on one day.. we came upon this idea

going to a cheap place (it's actually really nice btw with a gazebo and all) with our parents and sibilings (6 guests total) and doing a very quick intimate wedding and then doing casual parties one in cleveland and one in MI (where he's from and all his family lives). THe only problem is we were just planning on doing the ceremony OCt 30 of this year but we're not planning on doing the parties until next summer so we can go the cheapest route and not rent a hall or anything and just do it in the backyard... if you got a notice that someone got married and then like 6 months later got an invite for the "celebration of our love" or something to that extent would you feel weird about that? we basically just want to celebrate ourselves with our friends and family not really like a wedding "reception" at all..

sorry about the rant but i would love hearing everyones opinions.
thanks

i'm also posting this is the "reception" board so if you see this there then im sorry for the re-post

JKohio

I don't see a problem having the real wedding now and a party later, BUT I would not indicate anything about it being remotely wedding related at 6 (or whatever) months later. I'd just call it an open house or picnic or bbq or mid-summer celebration-- basically a regular get together to see everyone. Saying 'to celebrate our love' sounds kinda hokey (and like a delayed 'reception'), IMO

kaederose

I know some people who got married and had their reception a year later (they got married in Malaysia, and between costs for the bride's family's Malaysian ceremony and the trip itself, they chose to celebrate in the states a year later).  It was indicated as a wedding celebration, but everyone involved knew the situation from the start.  In your case, it's a bit different.  I agree that a "celebration of our love" sounds a bit hokey, but I can see where you want some recognition of your low-key-family-only wedding.  So why not call it a belated celebration of your marriage, and if you're not expecting gifts at your party, then put something like "a good luck party" or a "well wishes barbeque", that way people know about the wedding integration, but know that they're only obligated to come and wish you well.

Laur0813

My sister got married, parents only.   a year later they had a reception in both cities, and they called it a reception.  which it was.  there is no problem with having only family, and a reception later.  Their invitations were very similar to wedding invitations, and they had a catered event, and it very nice.  Definitely a legitimate option if that is what works for you!