Seriously?

TheJennius

I went to bed last night and as I was drifting away to sleepland, I got this text message:

"So I got a save the date today. And it wasn't yours. I might just make plans for that day. Granted [one of my BMs] would probably kill me. But still."

What's the worst part? This person isn't even on my guestlist. We're more acquiantances (I mispelled that) than friends, and yeah, he's friends with one of my girls, but we talk every ... month, maybe? At the most.

What the hell is wrong with people?

courtneybrooke921

what a douchebag. lol. seriously. that screams asssshole.

TheJennius

I just texted him back. And so WWIII started.

Court, I don't even understand completely! He completely ASSumed he was being invited. And I know for a fact this BM he's so close with pretty much said "See you at Jen's wedding!", also assuming I'd invite him because they're friends.

Guest lists are not conformed of associations, arsehats.

courtneybrooke921

omg seriously!!

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I warn you -- it's only the beginning.

We've invited TEN additional people since sending our invitations. That's including significant others + my dad's cousins (oops, we forgot to invite them, lol)... uhhh.

hang in there hon.

twinkle82576

What's wrong with people? Seriously, when these things start to come up for me, which I know they're bound to, I don't care how rude I seem or who it bothers, I'm putting my foot down. People need to realize their place... and it isn't as the guest list managers of our weddings.

eagles.fan1234

The nerve of people.....Every time this happens to someone, I am amazed at level of balls it takes to invite yourself to someone's wedding especially when that someone is not a close friend.  Hopefully you won't get anymore of these!

sambrefe67

wow thats insane!! Some people just dont get it...Thats sort of like last night we were talking about wedding stuff (me and a group of girls from school. whom one im close with the others not so much) and they were talking about not bing invited to certain weddings that they thought they would blah blah blah...then one girl busts out...."dont talk about your wedding in front of me if your not going to invite me," WHAT!? LOL so i totally get your situation people think they DESERVE to be invited...Biz this is MY wedding...I pick n choose who's invited...its not just a party for all to attend...its an initmate thing ... shared with people we love...not the whole world!

so yeah, this dude....is a d****bag

avee10

That is so rude.  I dont know why people think they can just invite themselves or other people to your wedding. Hello, its not a freaking house party, its a WEDDING!

LAKE21

I really hope this doesn't happen to me. We are having a very small wedding so it's only family.

But I have to admit.....I've totally been one of those asses. But, let me tell you why. My FSIL (FI sister) was getting married and wanted no children to attend. Which was fine by us since they don't want kids. But they expected us not to bring our son who was under a year old at the time and do what with him? Everyone in the family was attending the wedding. We had no sitter. So she tells FI that he can come and I and our son cannot if that's the case (because we RSVPed with all of us because its common freakin sense that if everyone you know is going to the wedding there won't be a damn babysitter). So FI tells her if I'm not invited, then he will not go because we are a family. She has a ragging heart attack because she wants her brother there and ultimately gives in to letting us be there. Did I mean for her to have to compromise? No. I totally understood where she was coming from and was going to respect that but FI was having none of it.

Sorry, everytime I see posts like this my mind always wanders back to that particular time and I just want to punch someone.

adrielegorburu

WOW - this guy thinks a whole lot about himself! I will never understand why people assume they are invited to a wedding because they are close to someone who is also invited to the wedding!! If I dont talk to or see the bride or groom at least once a week I wouldnt be expecting an invitation.  You should tell him to go ahead and make plans that day!

sambrefe67

ash _ that is crap - ola!!!! She should have figured something out for you guys.  Like I dont want children at the reception so Im going to try and find someone who can watch the babies, and if not then Ill deal with kids being there.  You're situation totally different from acquaintances thinking they automatically are invited...You were family!!!

Lacey36

WTF...Seriously?? people just have to be stupid. why would anyone ever saying something like that. I would either A. ignore it, or B. be like sorry my guest list is full haha.

LAKE21

Yea I know but I think she was also doing it to be a biz. I was supposed to be her MOH but she didn't want my tattoos to show and wanted me in this thin strap dress. I told her it was ridiculous if she didnt want them to show. Then we started arguing and she said some nasty things about me and my son to my FI(which he refuses to this day to tell me what she said), and told me how she thought I felt the world owed me everything since I had a child. Needless to say, I told her she was an ass and a horrible friend to speak of my family and I that way and dropped out of her BP. I was a whole heck of a lot nastier to her during our arguement then I'm explaining but she totally deserved it. Can you tell I don't like her?

The thing with kids is, the parents have to know their limits. If you know it's their nap time, or they are getting restless, get up quitely from the ceremony and walk away. That's what we had to do. Missed the whole ceremony but got to see it later on tape. And at the reception, he fell asleep. We danced with him in our arms while he was awake and he slept in his stroller the rest of the time. Going to weddings with an infant is do-able. You just have to execute it correctly.

RU3234

Some people just dont get it! Ive had people go to Fi cause they know he is weaker and doesnt really understand how much it is pp. It makes me sick!

LAKE21

Jen- sorry you are going through this.

atizon

people do not seem to amaze me anymore. Same thing happened after my bridal shower I got calls and they would be like ooohhh I saw your pictures of your bridal shower on fb it really hurt me you didnt invite me but I saw in your pictures you invited so and so... seriously.. wtf!!
Sorry hun that you have to go thru this. You have to laugh at the end. people are nuts.

TheJennius

Ashley - that is ridiculous. You're family! I was expecting my sister-in-law's baby to be at the wedding, even when it's an adult only reception (kids in bridal party and bride & groom's little siblings kinda don't count lol). Turns out she's hiring a sitter, so hey. But that was unconsiderate. Sorry you went through that.

Arlyn - I KNOW. wtf? It's seriously like "I only ... talk to you ... because you used to date my friend IN MIDDLESCHOOL."

I am almost certain people's manners automically vanish as soon as an engagement ring is on a girl's hand. Dunzo!

sambrefe67

the vanishing manners always happens!!! LOL Luckly before the girls from school...o wait no one of my co-workers told me he better be invited or else he wouldnt talk to me! LOL but he was obviously was already invited!!!! But yeah Jen those ppl are idiots!

Ash- im sure she deserved it! def sounds like it!!! BIZ! LOL my fav word