Vent: Do you ever feel the world is against you?

xxquemirasxx

Ladies, I don't know if it's just ME and the people I know but since the day we've announced our engagement, all I've heard is "your stupid" your too young" why do you need to get married" "you'll end up divorced anyway"  "marriage is for suckers" I mean I could go on and on....

I'm 25 years old, ok maybe for some we are too young but I Iove FI and he actually proposed when we were 20 yrs old and I said no cux we were too young, but now I've never felt so sure and since day #1 all I hear is we are too young to get married. It hurts me inside to think people want us to fail. I feel like crying sometimes. I feel like why in the hell are we doing this whole thing when in reality I think we should of just had some little get together with our moms (who  are the only ones who have NOT said any negative comments). 

I feel so blue today....yes someone once again just said something negative about us getting married...sigh  

phiaska

They're silly.  My brother and his wife started dating when they were 14 and 15 years old.  My brother came home one day and told us "that's the girl I'm going to marry."  They were 22 and 23 when they tied the knot and their first baby is gonna be a year old in April.

Tony and I are getting married on our 5 year anniversary.  It's plenty long to know that we're in it for the long haul and anybody who thinks otherwise should probably not spend their money in Vegas.

You know how committed your relationship is.  If they don't think so, that's them projecting their own life failures.  And even if they're right at some point down the line, they'd be some punk ass friends if they try to rub it in your face.

I think you should respond, "Sorry you think so.  When it doesn't work out I'll be sure to call you first so you can rub it in my face, but until then, please keep your negative opinions to yourself and try not to ruin my happiness.  mkthnx." 

Genie03

I'm soooo sorry your having a bad day. I totally know how you feel though. We got married 2 months after high school.Yeah to young, but no one was going to stop us. Well even though it hasn't been that long (7yrs.)we've lasted longer than everyone said we would and we are still going strong.

You should of seen and heard every ones negativity towards us and a whole lot of rumors got started. These where most of out conversations,
Me: we are getting married
other per.: Are you pregnant?
Me: No
Other per.: you guys are way to young you won't last
Me: SUPER BUMMED !!

There not going to be in your relationship so don't let them get to you. If you feel that you are ready there is no one to tell you that your not.

Good luck hun and don't let these rude people get in the way of you having a good day!! HTH

Trista <3

Sorry that people can be so insensitive. We actually haven't told his Mom yet that we are engaged, because he's sure that she's going to flip her lid. She's never really liked me, even though we've been together almost 9 years and you would think that marriage would be the normal next step.

Just smile and nod and make sure to not let their hurtful words get you down. :hug:

platinumkate

sometimes its others' way of expressing jealousy by lashing out on others. you and your FI are happy as can be and don't let anyone get in your way trying to dump on your positive spirits! all you need is love, just like the song says, and you have it with the feelings you've expressed towards your fiance! keep on truckin' forward lady!

jagore08

I've got some old eggs in the fridge, want to go egg some cars? 

Genie03

LOL!!!!
To funny Jagore08

nikojamm

Awe Que,  I'm so sorry to hear this.  People can be so freakin' insensitive!  They don't realize what they say affects you.  Actually, that really ticks me off.  I'm almost 10 yrs older than you so I didn't have that drama, but I had other drama.  I just feel like people don't think about how you are already stressed planning and then they think you have to hear their stupid opinion.  Who cares!  Like pp if you feel it is right, then it is.  Period!

I just thought about how I always used to say that I wanted to be married and on my way with my first kid by 25!  Hee hee.  Well, I might have been off about 10 yrs! 

Just remember... you and Fi love each other very much and that really is all that matters in all this.  GL and have a glass of wine tonight - you deserve it!!!

dawnbeatty

I really hate that people are saying that to you.  Try your best to just let it roll off your back.  I also think that those who say it might be a tad bit jealous.  You and your FI have the years behind your relationship to back it up.  Best thing you can do is get married, be happy and have lots of babies - that will show them

garavito_16

Sorry that you have to deal with negativity. If I kept hearing that I would say that I would appreciate it if they kept their negative comments to themsleves. Sometimes they don't even realize what they are saying. I'm sure they're thinking that if you get married, then you two will disappear into marital bliss, and won't have time to hang out with them. People make me mad sometimes!  People who are unhappy are usually the ones that say comments like that. You should ignore them and rub your happiness in their face, haha. Just focus on your happiness and how happy you are going to be to spending the rest of your life with the man of your dreams!

geal3456

My husband and I have been married since I was 18 and he was 21. Yes that was young so we've gone through our drama, but who hasn't. We are still married 10 years next year that's why we're renewing our vows. we definitely have heard it all, but now that its been awhile no one can doubt they way we feel about eachother. Still so in love. And now that your ready trust me you'll be happy. More than happy I should say. Knowing your ready is all you need. The only one that matters is you and him everyone else will fall into place.  Congrats on your happiness and finding the man of your dreams.

CurlyGirlyGirl

I'm jealous of you - I wish I could have gotten married when I was 25 to DH, but instead he took forever to propose... 8 years!!!

xxquemirasxx

Thanks Ladies! I should ignore those people and all that really matters are the both of us

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Word to the wise: nay sayers in the end just hear nay.  Do your own thing, if people want to share their negativity with you just let it go in one ear and out the other.

When my FI and I get married it will have been one day after our 15th anniversary.
During that time I have dealt with all sorts of people who threw their two cents worth in and offered their unsolicited opinions.

I've had his best friend's family try to fix him up with another girl. Yeah, fun.

I've had friends of him giving their unsolicited relationship advice with regards to what was in their opinion "our lack of compatibility," funny it came from someone who he was best man for twice.  Hmmm.

Just like there is never a shortage of things to spend money on, there is never a shortage of unwanted negative opinion, so don't let it get you down.

Remember what Einstein said: "Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former."

Lnc0185

I feel ya!  I hear that all of the time!  My FI is a police officer and I get "your too young" or "you know that police offeciers beat thier wives right?"  like every day.  In fact, I was buys wedding stamps at the post office today and the freaking postal guy next to the lady helping me put in his 2 cents about how I was a fool for marrying a police officer.  What the heck is that!  Everyone hates a police officer until they need one!  Don't be sad, rude comments happen to all of us

CANDEE43

awww im sorry to hear quemiras =/ I know exactly how you feel.  I'm 23 and FI just turned 24.  We both get that all the time.  I think what makes it worse is when it's the ppl you care about most that say negative stuff.  Our "friend" who I really haven't talked to much after this incident actually wanted to bet money against us divorcing because he doesn't believe in marriage. =[ I know it's hard to ignore and feels almost impossible to do sometimes.  I can't tell you to ignore it when I can't even do it myself.  Just hang in there, girly! 

Vans18

So sorry you feel like this....let me tell you that you are not the only one who has gone or will go through this. I also went through it and it just told them to suck it.  Of course it hurts when they tell you negative comments like that, especially when its people you care for. Sometimes they just want to see you fail, and we don't know why. 

You want to know what my MOH told me a couple of days before the wedding? -"you know, my friend who got married at The Castaway divorsed after 2 years"  I felt bad...like maybe she was hoping for the same thing to happen to me? it's not the first comment so I was hurt...but I just ignored it and we have nothing to do but to keep moving forward and do what we believe is right. They don't know how your relationship is...or how much you both love each other. So best advice is to ignore every single negative comments. HTH GL!

Summer0fStars

I've felt like the whole world was against me at times too!  I'm actually feeling a lot like that recently due to some things and felt like that alot during our engagment because of the same things.  Just try and keep your chin us...people won't always understand where you are coming from but that's their bad, not your's!