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Money Dance?

chrissyann02chrissyann02
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Hi ladies,

I was just wondering how you all felt about the money dance. I've seen responses to this question in other boards, and the recommendation is to check with your local board. I'm not a big fan, and FI said he didn't care if we didn't do it... UNTIL... his father made a comment that we aren't doing the bouquet or garter toss AND no money dance. Our guest list consists of close family &r friends (50-60 ppl), and most are not single so I don't see the point in garter & bouquet toss. Since FI and I are paying for the wedding I think what we say should go. What do you ladies think?
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think that guests should never have to pull out their wallet at a wedding.  I also didn't have a bouquet toss, garter toss, or a money dance and I don't think anyone even noticed.  If you feel like you want to do something then have an anniversary dance and the couple that is married the longest gets the "toss bouquet" and they offer up a few words of advice on how to keep a marriage strong.
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  • CurlyGirlyGirlCurlyGirlyGirl
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    edited December 2011
    My vote is no.
    There are very few cultures that do this, and I'm really not a fan of it at all.

    We went to a wedding a few months ago where no one was paying to dance with the bride and groom, so the best man had the nerve to come over to our table and tell us we should go up there.  We took time off work to come, paid for a gift, gas, our DRINKS because they didn't have an open bar, and then they wanted more money from us.  Epic fail, two thumbs way down, do not pass go.
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_california-los-angeles_money-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:68Discussion:79adb00f-21d6-43e2-9e3a-a243c0f6d872Post:05057c53-dfce-4fab-8fcf-3e98e135a64f">Re: Money Dance?</a>:
    [QUOTE]We went to a wedding a few months ago where no one was paying to dance with the bride and groom, so the best man had the nerve to come over to our table and tell us we should go up there. 
    Posted by CurlyGirlyGirl[/QUOTE]
    That had to be really embarrassing for the B&G.
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  • CurlyGirlyGirlCurlyGirlyGirl
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_california-los-angeles_money-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:68Discussion:79adb00f-21d6-43e2-9e3a-a243c0f6d872Post:67677891-10eb-469d-a1c4-f3375dcfaf55">Re: Money Dance?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Dance? : That had to be really embarrassing for the B&G.
    Posted by jagore08[/QUOTE]
    I would be, but I think they were too high on love to notice.  <div>
    </div><div>To make matters worse, the DJ kept going with the whole money dance theme and there must have been at least 3 songs for it...</div><div>
    </div><div>We left at 9:45 and the dance floor still hadn't been opened up.</div>
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  • jilly884jilly884 member
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    edited December 2011
    NO, don't do it.  The last wedding that I went to that had a money dance was embarrassing for all.
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  • chrissyann02chrissyann02
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks ladies. I don't want to do it... now I just gotta get FI on board.

    Wow, I'm still amazed that it went so badly for that couple. Embarassing!
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  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    edited December 2011
    We did not do tosses or a money dance. In your case, I'd skip it. My husband has seen it done before, but my family has never done it, and I think they might be horrified by it! So we skipped it. I had exactly one person mention they notice we didn't do tosses. No one said anything about the money dance.
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_california-los-angeles_money-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:68Discussion:79adb00f-21d6-43e2-9e3a-a243c0f6d872Post:f2f73f1a-1771-4c1b-88d0-01207d969bc3">Re: Money Dance?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thanks ladies. I don't want to do it... <strong>now I just gotta get FI on board. </strong>Wow, I'm still amazed that it went so badly for that couple. Embarassing!
    Posted by chrissyann02[/QUOTE]
    Tell him the story of the couple no one would dance with.  That should do it.
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  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    edited December 2011
    I've also heard stories about people making, like $18. That's kind of embarassing.
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  • heather.kravagnaheather.kravagna member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_california-los-angeles_money-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:68Discussion:79adb00f-21d6-43e2-9e3a-a243c0f6d872Post:2dd6a7c3-aa45-4fac-85ec-2368b332802e">Re: Money Dance?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think that guests should never have to pull out their wallet at a wedding.  I also didn't have a bouquet toss, garter toss, or a money dance and I don't think anyone even noticed.  If you feel like you want to do something then <strong>have an anniversary dance and the couple that is married the longest gets the "toss bouquet" and they offer up a few words of advice on how to keep a marriage strong.</strong>
    Posted by jagore08[/QUOTE]

    <div>Really cute idea!!</div>
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  • imtonifimtonif member
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    edited December 2011
    One word - TACKY
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  • annagtz82annagtz82
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I guess I'm the only "tacky" one here. I'm doing it and all the weddings I've been to, the money dance has been a great success. It's seen as the norm in my family I guess.

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  • smoris900smoris900
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    edited December 2011
    My girlfriend and her fiance went home with about $300...we're doing it!
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