Walking down the aisle...

xxquemirasxx

so I'm so thankful that I still have both of my parents  so the tradition is to have your father walk you down the aisle right?

Though I love my father very much, I feel like I would be leaving my mom behind somehow since she is not included in the wedding. Though I wouldn't say I have the closest relationship with my mother she is soooo old fashion. Doesn't show any emotion, doesn't cry...I mean girls she's a ROCK! Girls, she's NEVER told me she loves me either,  BUT I'm so thankful for her everyday, because of her I'm alive, I'm the person I am today. She made so many sacrifices when we were kids...she worked a zillion hours, she would leave when it was dark and come home when it was dark. 

She NEVER went to school to meet any of my teachers because she always made sure we had food on our table and roof over our head. As a kid I held a lot of resentment towards that but as i got older I realized this is her way of showing she loved us and took care of us.

And for that reason...I think she should be included somehow in the wedding. Should I have my parents give me away? I don't want step on my dad's toes or anything but I think having my mom & dad give me away would make it special! But since they are sooo old fashion and traditional I'm scared to even suggest it. 

I know FI wants his parents to walk him down the aisle but his parents are divorced and are really not in speaking terms...I guess that also makes me feel a little guilty because what if my parents say yes n his don't. 

JenFridrich

My BFF had both her parents walk her down the isle. I thought it was very touching to have them both give her away because they were both such a big part of her life. I say, do what you want, it's your day and if it makes you happy to have both your parents give you away then why not?

garavito_16

I'm having both my parents walk me down the aisle. I wouldn't have it any other way. They have done and sacrificed so much for me, I feel that it would be a touching way to show my appreciation for my mom and dad.  I say do it!

xxquemirasxx

I slightly brought up the subject with my a few min ago...she was like...your father is the ONLY one designated to do that. Who else would you choose? I said YOU!!! She's like NO your father only!

She is so old fashion! I have to laugh about it.

chinchilla2284

Wow your mom sounds alot like mine. After 3 yrs of me saying I love you, she finally is starting to say it back. I also asked her the same thing and she was pretty adamant about not walking down the aisle bc its a dad "tradition".
 
I found another way to get her involved. I will be using the "arras" that my parents used in their vow renewal about 10 yrs ago. I also think I will be using her earrings. She seems to be so appreciative that I am using something of hers. i have heard her tell ppl that I am using some of her stuff. She never admitted to me that she appreciates it but her mentioning is a good way to show she cares. Maybe you can incorporate her by using something that belongs to her in your ceremony.

jezzzebel

I had a similar situation where I wanted them to both walk me but my mom didn't want to take that away from my dad.  She isn't really traditional or old fashioned but she just thought it was important to him.  So my FI and I decided to do a Mother's Rose (or any other flower) ceremony to honors our moms during the ceremony. It's a brief reading about how important mothers are while you give them a flower and that's it, but it's a good way to give moms the attention they deserve. My officiant suggested it as an alternative to having both parents walk you.