Bridesmaid dresses

gdsvr2

Question: I chose the bridesmaid dresses for my girls and they are absolutely beautiful!! No lie...but one of my bridesmaid mentioned to me that they should try them on first to make sure that they fit well and they like the way they fit.  I dont know how it usually goes, but dont they have to wear the dress I picked out for them?  I mean, I got a dress that compliments all of their shapes.  Am I supposed to change the dress if they dont like the way it fits?  Honestly, I dont feel I need to but whats the rules on this bridesmaid dress? What should I do?

jagore08

Just let her try it on but as being a former BM several times, I just wore what the bride said.

CurlyGirlyGirl

Does she realize she'll probably need to get it altered, and it probably won't fit in the store anyway when she tries it on?

However, is there possibly something that she's uncomfortable with about the dress?

nikojamm

Well lemme tell ya girl:  this crap isn't easy!

I had only 3 gals.  I wanted a simple, party-type dress from like Macy's.  We all searched and searched and finally found this absolutely beautiful one.  They all got it and all agreed how pretty it was.  Well, once they started trying them on.... different story!  It was a Jones New York dress and it happen to be cut weird.  My sis was the first to mention it shows A LOT of cleavage.  Another girl felt the same and also the top area was cut kinda small. 

Well, after everything, I finally told them to find something in the green color that they wanted to wear.  We were a couple of weeks away from wedding and this wasn't solved.  My sis (MOH) went out and bought like 15 dresses to try different ones, shipped them from Charlotte, and they finally decided on one.  It wasn't the best I'd seen, but at that point, who cares, just put something on and walk down the aisle!  After all is said and done, the dress got so many compliments and was only $60!  It all worked out ok,  one of them didn't really like it, but she wore it.

So, I'm not sure what advice to give you.  In the beginning I was concerned with keeping it simple, cheaper, and that the girls were comfortable.  In the end, I didn't really care what the heck they wore!  If you really want that dress, just tell them that's the one you chose.

phiaska

been a bridesmaid twice and wore whatever hideous, ill-fitting dress they picked for me.  Let my BMs pick their own.

Jeni35

I am having only 3 Bridesmaids; but I chose the dress after considering their body types and styles. Because our religious ceremony is conservative- the dress has to be as well. The one I chose is elegant and will look great on them. 2 of my 3 bridesmaids agreed! The third, well she should pop up sometime before the wedding! LOL!

Mellie35

I started off thinking I might be able to find a dress that looked good on all three of my bridesmaids, but I was open to different dresses. It turned out that there was not one dress that looked good on all of them, so I ended up letting them pick out their own individual styles in the same color. Everyone ended up being very happy. I would suggest letting them try on the dress.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Who is paying for the dress? If they're paying, did you ask what they can afford?

And it's NICE to find out their preference. Especially if they are buying it themselves. Some people just say, "here, pick out any cocktail length dress in pool from DB."

Ultimately you have the final say, I'd agree, but I wouldn't want my friends to hate what I make them wear to my wedding. I want them to feel comfortable. (Which WILL be reflected in the pictures.)

gdsvr2

I did show all of the girls the pic of the dress.  Nothing is too revealing and it does compliment everyone because some are top heavy and others arent.  There is a total of 5 BM and they all absolutely loved the dress and the price.  They all can afford it.  So what I ended up doing was finding some back ups arond the same price range in case they dont fit when they go to the fitting and we have something else to deal with and they arent happy with the way it fits.  I just know that in the end Im going with majority rules.  My girls know that I will never put them in anything I wouldnt wear myself.  The dress is gorgeous and if it fits like I hope, they will all be happy!!! Thanks all of you for the advise.  Very helpful, especially the personal experiences.  Those are always welcomed.