Invite Co-Workers?

st_nortiz

Okay...... So I am debating on if I sould invite my co-workers or not.  I work with alot of Gringos and have worked with for about 3 yrs.  Majority are older and more conservitive.  My fiance and I work for the same large company but he works for a different department.  He has already decided to invite alot of his co-workers who by the way are lot more laid back than my co-workers.  I guess I am afraid they will think the wedding is too Mexican.  I will be having spanish music and may play a few country songs but I would not want them to feel ignored at the reception.  My guest list is already up to 250.  You know how the guest list grows for Mexican weddings!:)  So we are probably talking about 10-15 additional guest at the wedding.  I wouldn't mind if a few people went but it would be rude to invite some and not others.  I also do  not want to be rude if I don't invite anyone at all.  What would you do?  I just think they will see a bunch of drunk Mexicans and it will be a big culture shock for them.

annagtz82

If your uncomfortable with your guestlist already being huge then I would say to not invite them.  I don't think it would be rude to not invite any of them. Alot of ladies on the etiquette boards say that it's rude to invite some and not others, but it's not rude to invite all or none at all.

I on the other hand am inviting some co-workers and not others. I am only inviting those that I really get along with, eat lunch with and really want there. I couldn't possibly invite ALL my co-workers, there's way too many of them. So what ever you decide is fine. Don't worry about people being upset that they didn't get invited to your wedding. If they have a problem with it, just say that you're sorry but you couldn't afford to have everyone at your wedding. I've already had to turn down some of my co-workers that have asked if they're invited.

st_nortiz

Thanks for the reply!:)  I really wanted to hear someone else's opinion.

peaches85

Invite who you want.  If you like them and want them to share your special day with you, then invite them.  But don't invite them just because you feel obligated to because you work with them.

Also, don't worry about whether or not it's going to be a "culture shock" for them.  My FI's entire family is straight off the boat from South America whereas my Greek and Italian family has been living here in the U.S. for three generations.  We plan on playing tons of salsa, cumbia, etc. and I'm sure that most of my side of the family and my friends have never been to a wedding like what ours is going to be.  Similarly, most of the people from FI's side have never been to a wedding that had Greek dancing, but ours will have some of that as well.  So I guess, in a sense, it'll be a bit of "culture shock" for everyone, but who cares? 

People can't live in a bubble and, ultimately, guests go to a wedding to celebrate with the couple getting married. Knowing that you're Mexican, I'm sure your coworkers (if you decide to invite them) will be well aware of the fact that it's most likely going to be a typical/traditional Mexican affair.  Plus, they're adults... if they feel uncomfortable at your wedding then that's their problem and, worst case scenario, if they feel really uncomfortable they'll just leave a little early... not a big deal.

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I think our of respect, if you invite, they would attend the ceremony and MAYBE make an appearance at the reception. Most ppl are good about not staying in places they feel don't "fit" them. I am inviting some of my co-workers. I really do not want to invite them all as I do not get along with maybe 2 of the 30 ppl? So, actually I am still undecided on how to handle those invites.

debdebdol

I didn't invite any of my co-workers.  I agree and you should invite those who you want to be there.  Also, it's not just the Mexican's who get drunk at weddings.  I went to a wedding last month which was primarily Caucasian and I was among the only 4 Mexican's there.  They were a bunch of drunk Caucasian's, so it's not just Mexican's that get drunk.

mrs.bellatorres

 Don't invite anyone who will make you feel awkward about your heritage and family traditions. Even though a wedding is a public demonstration of your love, it still is a fairly private event, therefore, you should only invite people with whom you wish to share this intimate moment with.