My Family Will not like this

ashlip11

ok so my fiancee is in the National Guard and proposed before he shipped off to basic. Ive always said I wouldnt get married before i graduate college but now with all that has happend we want to get married before. We have been dating two years so its not really rushed but i know my family will want me to wait and i dont want them to be mad but i really want to marry this guy, im so torn on what to do or how to tell them

Any thoughts or tips would greatly help!!

bethsmiles

If you are old enough to get married then be a big girl and tell your parents. Being honest with them about everything is the best option. However you should listen to any concerns that they have. Sometimes even if you don't want to its better to wait a little bit longer.

honeybear9311

this is your decision, and if its not important to you to wait... then why would you? Dont expect financial help from a family that doesnt agree... best wishes to you

[Deleted User]

Tell them. I agree with pp. Don't expect help or support with a family that doesn't agree. I know, sad, but true. But if you both feel it is the right decision, then I say go for it. On the other hand, if you are meant to be together, then it should be fine to wait unless there are other reasons why you want to get married now. And it also depends on how soon you are planning the wedding for, what type of wedding/setting you envision. You can do a lot in a little bit of time, but if you have a certain vision in your head, it may not be possible in a short amount of time...just a thought or two for you to ponder. Good luck.

SheenaNash1

My parents orginally werent happy that me and my guy decided to married within a year of his proposal. They wanted us to wait for about three years until he was out school with a stable job. We didnt feel waiting was important. I felt that if i was ready to say yes to a proposal that i was ready the marry him now, so why wait. They were stubborn at first and not very involved in the planning but eventually they saw that this is what we were doing and it was our choice, not theirs. Now, after five months, they are accepting and they have offered up some money to help with the costs and my mom is making the centerpieces. Im not saying this exact thing will happen with you but the point is that if you feel its right for you and your guy that do it! Its hard to tell your parents at first but it doesn get easier. Good luck!

emp06c

When my boyfriend asked my dad for his blessing, my dad told him "not until she graduates." I graduated 2 days ago and it is exciting because I know the proposal is coming soon. That being said, I'm glad that we decided to listen to my parents. Planning weddings and blending two lives together can be stressful and distracting from school and the best thing you can do for your marriage is secure that degree! By waiting, I was able to talk things over with my bf and we have our careers/futures pretty much set as well as financial concerns the arose from me being a poor student and him having only a starting salary. That being said, your situation may be different and you two may have everything figured out. If so, more power to you. It's ultimately your decision, as pp said, so I would just listen to what specific concerns your parents have and try to ease their concerns the best you can.