Was your ring a TOTAL surprise??

katanne9

Hi all,Waiting for my bf of 3 years to "officially" pop the question. He very, very, very much wants to pick out the ring by himself, so we have not done any ring shopping together. I showed him a few photos once upon a time, and he has great style and knows my style (he buys me clothes without me all the time) so I trust him.but now that it's getting close it's exciting, but a little nerve wracking!! Did anyone else choose to not pick their ring? ... any horror stories? I had a dream that the ring looked like a huge crown with diamonds on the points... UGH!!

kb111878

I showed my guy rings that I liked many times. I very much wanted a vintage-looking typa ring. He surprised me with something completely different. Very plain, solitaire radiant cut, but it's lovely. The fact that he picked it out means something to me, too.If your man has great taste, I wouldn't worry too much

Rachel+Duck

If he has good taste, don't sweat it. I only gave my FI a few clues as to what I was looking for, white gold, at least one carat, princess cut. OK. A lot of clues. He only went with 2 of the 3 and it is absolutley beautiful. I think when you get it, it will be so special that it won't matter.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

No. In fact, we are going to pick something out this weekend. I even found the jeweler I want to go to! (He's an estate jeweler with rings from mostly the 30s and 40s.) I showed FI a picture of a ring I love online, too. He really wants to pay for it himself and be there with me to pick it (in fact, this is the part he's the most excited about). But I figure it's something I'm going to be wearing the rest of my life, so I might as well get something I really, really love. I.e., NOT yellow gold, NOT a solitaire, round or oval cut, vintage preferred. Honestly, if he wants to do an "official" proposal after we pick out the ring (I think he might), it's cool with me. I mean, we've talked about marriage for so long. I figure it's not a surprise that he's going to ask or that I'll say yes, so the ring doesn't need to be either.

sjnsjnsjn

I didn't pick mine out.  It was a surprise, and he nailed it!  The only thing I told him, which I think he knew already, is that I didn't want a big diamond rock (not my style), and he knows my fave color is red, so I have this awesome ruby (with 3 little diamonds on each side) ring that is so me, it's crazy.  It has a kind of vintage-y look, and I adore it.  If he knows your taste well, all he needs is a ring that fits you to take with him.  My guy swiped one of mine off my dress, and voila!

On_Cloud_Nine

My FI completely surprised me with the ring AND the proposal. I had no idea he was going to propose when he did, and I loved it! He knew I wanted it to be a surprise, and it completely was. Granted, we had talked about getting married, but he was so quiet about certain things that I had no idea he was planning the proposal.He did an AMAZING job picking out my ring! I love it! He had gotten clues from me by asking what I liked or didn't like about my two sister's engagement bands, and kind of went from there. I'm the only one with a princess cut solitaire! But he did a great job, because he didn't want a plain band. He found this great band that has diamonds around the edges in two half moon shapes on each side. He wanted to pick it out himself, and he knew I wanted him to too, and it was great!Now, I did have a horrible dream that he bought me an UGLY e-ring about a week before he actually proposed. Weird, because I had no idea it was coming. But my nightmare was unfounded!

ElberethArcamen

My fiance took me out to pick mine out. I'd given him a lot of hints about what I wanted... I'm pretty picky when it comes to rings, for a few reasons. I have weird fingers, so some rings just look weird. I also work at a job where I have to wear latex gloves, so I didn't want little teeny pronged diamonds that would snag easily. After I told him things like that, he got really nervous and said he didn't want to pick it out by himself! lol We went to Jared to browse, just so he could get a solid idea, and I found one that I absolutely fell in love with. Even though I told him I didn't want to make the choice... I kinda ended up picking anyway. He still did a GREAT job of surprising me, because he came up with an elaborate story so I wouldn't know he had it.

Bobbysprncss

I didn't pick out my ring, but I did let him know that I wanted a simple princess cut diamond solitaire. He wanted to know so that I would love it, because I will be the one wearing it forever.  He picked it out and I love it, but I did make it very easy for him.

smallkate101

My FI picked mine out by himself.  He had a few in mind and he showed me them to get an idea of what I liked the best.  I had no idea he had gone and gotten it.  In fact he completely threw me off because he kept telling me it wouldn't be for a few more months.  He knows me so well that I didn't have to worry about him not knowing what to get.  People still don't believe me when I tell them that he picked it out himself!  lol

tymee88

My FI picked the ring out w/ his twin boys...and I love it! We had been looking at rings, and he had a stack of wish list cards and he know I wanted round cut "because they are more sparkley' and I wanted timeless and classy, and he found the perfect ring for me! Granted it was one I had tried on previously, but the fact that him and the boys all went together and all 3 agreed on the ring, makes it magical and more meaningful...and the fact the proposal was very unexpected.

LRPardy

I didn't pick mine out because his mother gave him her engagement ring & wedding ring that his late father had given her.  It meant so much more to me that she felt enough about me to offer her rings to her son for the woman he loves.  Evidently he had it since May and had planned to propose just before my birthday last week, so I felt kind of silly when I think back to the conversations we had where I said I would like a Canadian diamond because it would be a connection to my home country when I move to the US.  This family ring means a million times more than any other ring!Lesson I learned, trust him to know you well enough that you'll love what he gives you when he does propose.Cheers!!

cdmc

Hi everyone,My ring was a total surprise and it is perfect! We never went ring shopping or even talked about rings, diamonds etc! Once we were at a diamond exhibit and even then we never talked about rings despite a large mock-up of the different cuts of diamonds (yes, I was a little steamed). After dating for 10 years one hopes an engagement is around the corner (especially since we were both out of school by this point). In the end it worked out perfectly! I understand that nerve wracking bit! I once had a dream that he had given me ring that was a wreath made out of branches which then promptly fell apart as soon as I put in on. I was so upset after that dream!Your ring will be fantastic because it will be YOUR ring. And you know the meaning behind it. Take care!

jjax214

Hey! My ring was a total surprise...as in I didn't even know we had talked about getting married - we only said "I love you" about a week before hand - but then again we were very close friends for almost 4 years. I wanted something completely my own and now I have a gorgeous 2 carrot citrine flanked by a diamond on both sides. Unfortunately now we are getting closer to the wedding and I HATE wedding ring shopping with my fiance - he is so picky and ALL men's rings look the same - and of course, he doesn't like them.I say if he can pick your ring then you should be able to pick his wedding band!

cassie lea

Oh my gosh--TOTAL surprise. it's the best. We've been engaged for 4 months (only 3 more to go!), and every day I look down at my hand and squeal.  We had talked about marriage very seriously for a few months, but I still had no idea that a ring was coming. I had only mentioned to him a few things that I really liked, based on my friends' rings or something in a magazine...and he surprised me with something even more amazing than I would have picked out myself! Believe me, if he knows your style and you have showed him photos/mentioned things to him...he'll remember. ;-)<3

kelliebean

Mine was a surpise! I thought we were just going to have a fun day at the zoo, and see my favorite place, the butterfly house of course. Apparently he decided to make the day even more special. And I love my ring, he's always known that i didnt want the regular diamond ring, because well forgive me, i dont think its so unique, I like color, and my favorite color is wine so I have a garnet with two rubies on the side, its been in his family for almost 85 years, it was his grandmother's engagement ring. I love the ring and the proposal was unexpected but extremely WONDERFUL!and about the horror stories, i had a dream once that he would give me a ring in the shape of a big rose with itty itty diamonds all over it. blech.

chest173

we went shopping together and I picked it out. We have totally opposite taste in jewelry, so he wanted me to pick it. We also used OUR money, not just his, so I thought I should have a say! I had anxiety dreams every night waiting for it to come in, but I'm completely in love with it!

lu27

Congratulations! FI picked mine out on his own and I am so glad that he did! I had one picked out, but I never got a chance to show him. However, the ring that he proposed with is even more beautiful (and bigger) than the one I originally liked.

kjane12

I didn't get to choose either ... I got his great-grandmother's ring from 1940 and it's very vintage (and big!)  I wouldn't have picked anything like it, partially because I've never ran into anything like it.  He was so scared that I wouldn't like it, but I'm VERY happy, and so was his family that I accepted it.

dieselsmomma

I showed my husband a few things I liked (three diamonds, center the largest, 2 sides = 1/4 of the larger stone), and he came back with something even better!!!! It was in that style but it's a scottkay crown setting ring. I'm definitely glad that he got some direction from me (ie: I don't like square diamonds) and he really ran with it. My first reaction to the title was when he popped the question. My husband ran me a bath (I'm a huge bather) after we spent an evening in some hot springs and when I came out (completely naked by the way.....) he popped the question. *tear*

jbelle18

My ring and the proposal was a complete suprise! I had a feeling it was coming, but not as soon as it did. We went and looked at rings once just for fun. We both had basically the same idea and liked the same things. I told him I don't really like big "gody" rings, just something simple. I basically pounded it in his head that I really REALLY like princess cut and he agreed that was his favorite too so I wasn't really worried about it. He had mentioned a few different shapes and styles but when we talked about it we still agreed on princess cut. Well when he proposed of course I was in shock with the whole proposal but I was also in shock over the ring. It is a gorgeous trillion cut 2ct. diamond with 2 bands containing small diamonds on both sides. Of course my first reaction was "ITS NOT PRINCESS CUT!" but after I looked at it and he told me that he designed the ring, I absolutely loved it and wouldn't want anything else. He wanted me to have something unique and something that nobody else would have and he did a great job and I love showing it off! http://weddings.theknot.com/pwp/pwp2/view/MemberPage.aspx?coupleId=7071754811457490 <- my bio

katiefair

I didn't pick my ring, but it wasn't a total surprise either. We had looked at a couple and I fell in love with blue diamonds when we were in the Bahamas. So, when we got back to the states, he went out and found a blue diamond ring. I actually love my ring - it's not too big for me, it's just right. But he actually has decided since then that he doesn't like it! In a few years, he wants to buy me a new one.

laura_j

I was really nervous too, but wanted him pick it out because surprises in life are so few and far between now. We talked about what I liked and my dislikes... more about dislikes than likes. I knew my center stone was going to be round, because my grandmother gave us the diamond my granddaddy gave her 50 years ago. If you are completely opposed to a certain cut, now is the time to speak up!I was completely surprised when he proposed. He did an awesome job, and I wouldn't have anything else. In my opinion the surprise is part of the whole experience, don't cheat yourself out of that.

bharman79

mine was a total surprise...i didn't have a clue he was going to propose....we had just closed on the house and the next day we were moving stuff in and he did it then..it was very sweet....he did a really good job on the ring too...he knows i love pink and i like different...so instead of a diamond he got me a 1.6 carat pink sapphire and 2 smaller diamonds on either side....it is a stunning ring.... My fiance' isn't the epitome of style so if you guy is stylin then i wouldn't worry one bit!!!  especially if you told him the different styles you like...   good luck

mizdiz444

Mine was a surprise...for the most part.  He knew that even though I am very trendy, I love classic stuff if it is something I'm going to keep for a long time.  I told him I wanted white gold and round cut and not really huge because I have really small hands.  He ended up getting me a very plain solitare that was almost a full carat.  I was stoked!  It looks perfect on me!  It ended up working out that he got something very plain because we ended up buying our wedding bands in Ireland (my fiance is Irish) and they have trinity knots and claddaughs on them, so it compliments the bands well.

jordanwells21

Both the ring and the proposal were a HUGE susprise to me!!!! and done a little different...he proposed first and then gave me my ring a couple months later. One of the reasons was because we didnt want to tell anybody till later anyway and he wanted to pick out the PERFECT ring...AND HE DID!!!! I have horrible taste in jewelery!!!! he picked it out all by himself with no hints at all from me. I knew for a fact that if it was gold, silver, or rainbow colored or that it cost $10 or $10,000, that I would love it because of its meaning and because it was from him he ended up getting me a rare cut diamond from this jeweler from Italy that came to the states only once or twice a year and he has his own cut of diamond. there is a princess cut one in the middle and then two "calla" cut diamonds on the sides...and then in the front, back, and sides of the band there are 32 little diamonds total (I swear Im not bragging at all!!! Im not that kind of girl!!!!!) so keep your hopes up!!! Im sure it will take your breath away!!!-Jordan

TeamCampos08

i did not get to pick out my ring, but it is beautiful!!! i love it and love to stare at it from time to time! he picked it out on his own... but with alittle bit of help from his older sister

lookame3639

My first husband picked out the ring all by himself. I thought it was pretty...but I hated it. I felt like every other person had that exact ring and it was not even my style, more modern than my vintage style. I felt bad for hating it but I honestly didn't like it. I tried dressing it up with a wrap but the wrap was to big and the ring didn't fit. Eventually the marriage ended(not due to the ring, I didn't let him know I hated it he cheated and left me and his son while we were asleep for another woman and took everything we owned...even the diapers for his 10 month old) I guess the fear of having a ring which reminded me of my ex got to me and I asked my fiance if we could look together. I automatically ruled out any modern rings and after looking at several places we went to Jareds and "built" a ring. I found a vault value setting which was VERY vintage looking. We looked through the diamonds and I liked the princess cuts in a kite type setting, but it was a sapphire that stole the show for me. I love it and my fiance loves it. A part of me wishes I didn't know about it since he's killing me about the proposal, but it's a gorgeous ring and I'm happy we chose it together. It also set off the colors of our wedding

bburton33

My boyfriend and I actually went to pick out our own rings. He told me one day to just go ahead and look through every jeweler and see if there was anything that I liked. After an extensive amount of searching, I found THE ring. I did not want extravagant, but I also didn't want it to be simple. Not big, but not small. So I guess I found the perfect in-between for me. I haven't seen it in months and I'm not even sure if he had purchased the ring yet. He keeps telling me that he is going to propose "soon, very soon" so I'm just waiting. Completely backwards, I know, because we already have the date picked out and several things booked. [url=http://www.theknot.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=UBB&utm_campaign=tickers][img]http://global.theknot.com/tools/tickers/tt41809.aspx[/img][/url]

swim1011

I picked out the ring, we went shopping together for it.  I even helped pay for it, since it was pretty far out of the original price range we wanted.  I wanted a low setting, bc I work in a lab and didn't want it to poke holes in my gloves, or accidentally get banged up, etc.  Truthfully, FI never would've picked this ring out for me, and I'm glad I had control over the situation.  The proposal, on the other hand, was a complete surprise. 

AmyLaurel89

Mine was not a complete surprise but I sure didn't pick it outMy FI knew that a hate yellow gold and I have a thing against princess cut.(no offense if thats what you've got) so he was off to a great start. He bought me a pearl ring a few months before the proposal so he knew the ring size and he got my style down at that point. I feels great that I trusted him to pick it out and that he payed attention to my style and what I like. He knows me and I was so excited that he got me exactly what I wanted without knowing it. I had created a ring using brides.com that was .5 carats white gold radiant cut solitaire. He never saw that. but in that little box in his hand sat the same exact ring! I love him so much!! The proposal was a surprise as well and THIS was very important to him. I'm glad I could help by being completely oblivious. I had no clue. I'm talking NO clue.I do believe he had help from his sisters and mine in reassurance. So if all else fails, confide in a sibling or friend who is willing to guide him. Normal 0 false false false EN-US X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-qformat:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0in; mso-para-margin-right:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0in; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;} [url=http://www.theknot.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=UBB&utm_campaign=tickers][img]http://global.theknot.com/tools/tickers/tt40ffa.aspx[/img][/url]

jadedecaro

well, which one?the real engagement ring... nope. i have seen the picture for it and thought it was gorgeous. note that it's not for me.it's originally for his ex. i always thought that ring is gorgeous.and it's a shame that she didnt want it. (well thank you so much!(to the ex.)thank you for not wanting him and leave him to me!)and no, that ring wasnt a surprise.the claire one?i picked that out. lol  he payed for it.the future engagement ring which is only for me? yeah, it's a surprise.ill get it in a few years. but i give him the stone that i want(there's a few), and thats about it.he have good taste in rings.so im not that worried.