Okay, here's the situation:
We're not yet engaged. We're ring shopping, know when we want to get married (Aug 2012), have joint bank accounts, etc.
Obviously, with the ring shopping comes the initial conversation about the wedding - budgets, location, venue, etc.
We're very lucky that my parents are going to pay for the wedding - not only that, they're going to sit down with us, figure out a fair amount, and write me a check. No micromanging, no strings attached. There will definitely be budgeting, but I can afford to have a really nice wedding.
So far, it sounds great, right? Here's my small problem - while I have been very aware of what a wedding costs, and what sacrifices I'm willing to make in the name of budgets, my boyfriend has no idea.
I'm sure many of you have been in the same situation - your fiance goes, "How much did you say will this cost?!!!" In my case, he wants to do the whole wedding for $10k, no matter the sacrifices, and take the rest for an awesome honeymoon. He believes he can find a venue that will host the ceremony & reception AND include all the catering for $4k. He also believes his family (who will be driving several hours to the event) should be able to stay with my family and friends who live in the area rather than pay for hotels.
How do I go about educating him about how much we can rationally expect to spend, where we can reasonably compromise to cut costs without quality, and how an out-of-town wedding for some of the guests is handled (hotel blocks, etc.)? I don't want to turn him off from the whole process, or get freaked by the amount of money we're about to spend on one day.
Anyone have any fun stories of how they brought their fiance up to speed and included them? Thanks!