My fiance and I are recently engaged. It was a fairly informal thing, and I was actually the one who asked him (and gave him a ring that I have worn for eight years when he said yes). Because our past has been very rocky due to how our relationship began (even if our love for each other has never faltered), Z wants to wait three months or more before we tell our friends and family that we've come to that decision. At that time, he says, he will buy me a ring, propose to me formally, and then we can tell anyone we wish. At that time we will also move in together, and begin making more permanent plans. Additionally, he wants to wait 2 or more years before we actually get married.
I am frustrated by both of these things. I understand wanting to wait for the actual wedding; he is currently a semester short of graduating college, whereas I had to drop out of school before I could even come close to finishing my degree. If he can finish college and begin a degree it would allow us to better begin our life together.
Waiting to announce it, though...I want to be able to tell people, to share my excitement. I want to be able to tell my closest friends, the people who have stood by us through thick and thin even when the going was rough and no one believed in us. I could care less about the ring; I told him straight up that a $10 ring from a mall stand (or something small of his that I could wear on a cord around MY neck) would mean more to me than any fancy bejeweled thing that would break our bank. Mostly I just want to be able to talk to my girlfriends and I'm currently unable to do so because they all know him and if I tell them it WILL get back to him.
So...do I wait? or do I try to get him to see that it doesn't hurt to tell people now? Am I being totally silly?