I need some help. We got engaged over New Years eve after spending the last 10 years together. Yes 10 years. Over this time, we have always talked about how we wanted a smaller wedding thats more detailed with things we like (rustic, vintage, and brewery feel). The problem is that our wedding list that was suppose to be small is anything but that. My mom has 10 brothers and sisters, each having four to five children. Alone on my mothers side is 70 people. My hubby to be was going to cut his family side in half to still cut costs and problems. But then after thinking about it, he shouldnt have to only have a couple people when my side alone will be around 150. The problem is that we are now around 251 on our wedding list.
THis is fine and all, but the reception places we are looking at all hold around 180 max. My mother insists we invite her entire side, and now my boyfriend feels his entire family needs to be invited as well, since my mom is not cutting anyone.
Plus, my parents seem to lack what everything costs, the more people you have, the more pricey things will be.
Since being engaged I have cried everynight. I cant find a venue that will hold everyone that is not to expensive, and keep the cost down. I will not resort to wedding halls, hotel confrence rooms, etc. The rustic feel look that I wanted all my life is quickly turning into a nitemare.
I dont even want to plan anymore. My ideas are cut off short by my mom on the phone, she only wants to know $$.
At this point, I almost want to elope to save on all the drama. Which is sad, after being with someone for the last 10 years, you think you would want to celebrate infront of everyone.
Do you think its rude to not invite some of my moms side. All the older cousins did invite us to theirs, but since our family is so big every single wedding reception has been in a hall, or a hotel room. This is something i am not interested in at all!!
please help. If it was me i would just get married alone and have no more drama. My mom is not being nice on the phone, and has an attitude with me since we engaged.