We are buying a house!!

Britt1893

So My fiance and I are buying a house together. Yes, we have already decided what should happen if the wedding falls through. At the same time, I feel like we are preparing for a failed situation. Anyways, I tried posting on the Nest too and everyone over there seems to not really accept my situation. So I can't talk to people on there, yet I don't want to run up this board on The Knot with all of trials and tribulations. I feel bad. But yay for the new house!

LeenieLane

Congrats! I'm not sure what The Nest didn't "accept"? Your OP wasn't really clear to me.

Britt1893

One of the PP on was a lady telling me she didn't agree with living together before marriage. Another post was a lady telling me that I need a back up plan, then went on to tell me that she isn't a fan.
I don't know?

thejucheidea

lol my BOYFRIEND and I live together in a house we bought. It's only my name on the title, but we pay the mortgage from our joint account.

It's the Internet. Suck up, call the chick out and move on. Post on The Nest, because, well, this is a board for engagements, not house buyings.

Britt1893

my FIANCE' and I are buying a house! Considering we are also newly engaged and I have shared wonderful things with these ladies on here, I am sure some would like to know. Also, I would like to point out, this board is for ENGAGEMENTS as well. You pointed that out in your statement.

LeenieLane

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_buying-house?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:37766a26-dcee-4bdc-a7f5-de6982f852d8Post:4277b119-f05a-4a0a-a15f-a5d1e11db46c">Re: We are buying a house!!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: We are buying a house!! : As you pointed out, this is the internet.  You don't get to tell other people what to post or where to post it.
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]



Love it!

LeenieLane

Britt, enjoy this moment! Don't let others who have opinions as to how you should/shouldn't handle something take away from the excitement. You and your FI are starting a new chapter in your lives and you should be very proud! Congrats again!

thejucheidea

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_buying-house?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:37766a26-dcee-4bdc-a7f5-de6982f852d8Post:4277b119-f05a-4a0a-a15f-a5d1e11db46c">Re: We are buying a house!!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: We are buying a house!! : As you pointed out, this is the internet.  You don't get to tell other people what to post or where to post it.
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

Touche.

But it's always seemed to me that this board is more of an announcement board than anything. It seems like a lot of the supportive camaraderie is on whichever other board one ends up posting on the most, whether it be local boards, month boards or general boards. When I was finishing buying a house, I discussed it with the women on NEY because we'd already been talking before and it was a more personal discussion. I guess I don't quite understand what seems to be sort of walking into a room full of strangers and announcing something unrelated to the topic at hand, especially when it was just one chick on The Nest who seemed to have her panties in a wad about living together prior to getting married.

But whatevs. Congrats on your house buying venture. Since you're buying a foreclosure, make sure you have a really good home inspection prior to going in, because if it's anything like the foreclosure we bought, the previous owners might have gotten a little angry about the impending foreclosing and destroyed a bunch of things including the ventilation and the plumbing. We've had some interesting things that we've had to deal with in our house, so you need to be prepared for pretty much everything.

ETA: And btw, the reason I said BOYFRIEND was because I can't imagine how butthurt that chick would be if she heard that a non-engaged couple was living together. That would certainly give her the vapors~

Getting2Vowels

Congrats!!

FI and I also recently purchased a home too. We're having so much fun at the same time. Good luck with your search and just remember the only important thing is is what makes YOU happy

thejucheidea

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_buying-house?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:37766a26-dcee-4bdc-a7f5-de6982f852d8Post:c02c189c-fa7c-4dfa-861c-4ebfebab0674">Re: We are buying a house!!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: We are buying a house!! : This would have been more helpful then telling her to go post on the Nest.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

The only reason I knew she was planning to buy a foreclosure was by reading the post that she made on The Nest.

meganb1977

Congratulations and hope you find something you both love, if you didn't already stumble across something.  Good luck with your financing and all the other details.  My fiance and I planned before we got engaged that he purchased a house he could afford on his own, and I'm glad we didn't stretch our budget and have extra money from my paycheck to save towards fixing up the house, but you might have already thought of something like that as part of your back up plan :-)

firsttimersluck

Congratulations!

That's insulting. An engagement is you promising to be together for a lifetime. The marriage is the actual paperwork. I'm pretty sure you aren't going to wait until the "I do" to know 100% that you two will be together for life. My husband and I have been married for about 5 months, and have owned our house, cars, credit cards, bank accounts, etc jointly for two years. Life couldn't be more perfect for us, before or after the wedding. 

Don't let others get you down. You clearly know that he is the one for life since you agreed to marry him, so what's the big deal? House hunting is overwhelming and exciting. Just make sure you two give yourselves a break from home-buying and wedding talk from time to time.  

Britt1893

Thank you ladies! I understand it is for announcements and we recently announced our engagement. June 3rd, 2011 we got engaged! Its funny because its a start to our lives. Just like getting married, buying a house is a HUGE commitment. Its our engagement to the house. lol

breaness

We bought our house 2 months before we got married and LOVE it. When you find the right house, you know.. just like when you find the right man

Congratulations!

Beads921

Congrats! FI and I bought our house several months before we were even engaged. And both our names are on the title. I know there are a lot of people who would not agree with our decision and the way we went about it, but ultimately, it's our lives and our money to do with as we please. 

sonya+adam

Congratulations! I can't wait until we buy our first house! Like other PPs have said, don't let other people get you down. There are always going to be people who are Negative Nellies, but what matters is how you feel about the situation.

Although, I am a little curious, why do you say that you feel like you're preparing for a failed situation?

Zimsgirl

Congrats! That's so exciting! FI and I live together in an apartment but we have all of our stuff in both names like firsttimersluck

lyns86stc3007

Congrats! My FI and I bought our house over 2 years ago and we wern't even engaged at the time. Who cares what people think. My family didn't agree but in the end all that matters is what you feel is right and is making you happy. I wouldn't have done anything differently. Don't let other people bring you down.

Britt1893

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_buying-house?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:37766a26-dcee-4bdc-a7f5-de6982f852d8Post:d235d751-059d-4586-8b45-6d29d6642a18">Re: We are buying a house!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Congratulations! I can't wait until we buy our first house! Like other PPs have said, don't let other people get you down. There are always going to be people who are Negative Nellies, but what matters is how you feel about the situation. <strong>Although, I am a little curious, why do you say that you feel like you're preparing for a failed situation?
</strong>Posted by sonya+adam[/QUOTE]

When everyone was asking us to sign papers to where something were to happen IF IN THE EVENT SOMETHING WERE TO HAPPEN. I am all for being prepared, and we have talked about it. But its something we don't want to plan for. I feel like preparing to fail will in turn cause you to fail..I don't know. I guess it is a just my way of thinking..Its odd because I think preparing for bad times is something everyone should do. I don't want to prepare for if things don't work out (the failed situation) I don't know. I guess I am a little odd. I don't want to think about things ending. I don't think anyone does.