Do I register for my engagement party??

MeredithL1011

My fiance and I have been living together for 2 1/2 years and we already have a house full of appliances etc. People keep asking if we are registrered for our party and I keep telling them I don't know what to do. I know it makes it easier for the guests, so they know what to bring, but is it worth it?

duckie1905

In my circle e-parties are not gift giving events.  We received a few bottles of wine and that was about it.

But, I would say that if many people are asking then it might be easier to create a small registry.

SarahPLiz

Generally, Engagement parties are not gift-giving events like showers, apart from some people brining a hostess gift like a bottle of wine. If people ask, tell them that no gift is required and you will register before you have a shower, or before the wedding, whatever is the case.

Think of it this way, if you register for your e-party, they it makes it seem like you expect an engagement present and a wedding present. To me, these celebrate the same occaision and therefore only one gift is customary. However, in some circles, people give a shower gift AND a wedding gift, but that is not MY circle..

jeanna85

in my circle, engagement parties are gift giving events, and you usually get your china, crystal, and silver at them. i received all 16 settings of all of that at my e-party. i was hesitant at first about registering, but it ended up being a good idea. i wouldnt want lots of random presents, like 5 espresso machines or something. if it isnt customary in your circle, it will look gift grabby.

janedoe1113a

Engagement parties aren't normally gift giving events and if people bring gifts, they're normally bottles of wine or something small like that.

MeredithL1011

Thank you for all your responses. I don't think I will register, I'll let the guests decide what they want to do, bring a gift or no gift.

meegz85

why can't your guests just enjoy themselves at your party? I don't think engagement gifts are necessary. If I got an engagement invite with registry information I would feel like it's a gift grab.

I <3 Seabass

In my circle engagement paties are gift giving events. However, we did not register for our e-party. It's really up to you.

http://www.soulfulengagements.com/1/post/2009/10/q-should-we-register-for-our-engagement-party.html

birdie119

Because of the CLEAR disagreement on this topic, my fiance and I decided to rgister, but not put it on the invitations.  That way, if people ask, we can tell them, but if they don't plan on bringing a gift, it's not like we're telling them they should.  I mean if you're going to register anyway, why not get started?