Proposal during pictures?

irvineboy

Hi everyone,

What do you think about proposing during pictures?  I am trying to catch her offguard and propose during picture taking.  I want the photographer to capture the moment and will also capture my proposal on video.  This will totally be unsuspected.  Anyone have thoughts about this?

dewingedpixie

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[QUOTE]Hi everyone, What do you think about proposing during pictures?  I am trying to catch her offguard and propose during picture taking.  I want the photographer to capture the moment and will also capture my proposal on video.  This will totally be unsuspected.  Anyone have thoughts about this?
Posted by jyeh74[/QUOTE]

I think this really depends on her. Many women love this idea. My best friend and I do not. Her proposal was a written marraige contract with no rings which is what she wanted. Mine was a planned engagement ring with surprise presentation. I did not want a ton of photos or people, so it was in the woods with me, my fiance, and my daughter. I view the engagement as a private moment of promise, and the wedding a public declaration and celebration of that promise. However many women are very different. If she's out going and loves photos she may really love this idea, many women would. Many of my friends certainly would.

achiduck

I agree with PP. You know your SO, is it something she would like?

It's something I would like, but I'm not the same as every girl.

pomundson0

Personally I love the idea of getting a photo to capture the moment, but I'm a photographer myself and LOVE pictures and he knows it  My FI and I were in a park that was all decked out for the holidays before going to dinner, we came across a few girls who asked if we could take their picture in front of the giant tree made of lights, so we happily obliged and asked the same, and just when she was about to take the pic he told her to hold on a sec and got down on one knee, and I have a photo that I will cherish for a lifetime  It was in a public place with a few strangers, but was still private.  If you can figure it where maybe she doesn't know the video is being taken (bystander looking like they're playing with their phone?) it may come as more of a surprise, if there's a bunch of people with cameras she may know something is up  Or if you want it really private, get a friend with a great zoom lens to tail you and you can surprise her with the photos afterward  Good luck!

Ajuliana

I think it's sweet!  But I knew a couple where the guy made it ridiculously obvious.  

He wore a tux, took her to the beach by the pier, and the photographer was on the pier.  So if she didn't notice one, she surely noticed the other.  

Use your creativity, but just make sure it isn't conspicuous.  Good luck!

calliopeia2013

You know your FI better than we do!

I probably would have said no if my FI had done something like that- I absolutely HATED the idea of anyone else being there when he proposed.  Having it be a private moment was very, very important to me.  (FWIW, I did make that very clear to my FI beforehand.)  I can't even imagine how upset I would have been if I had found out that he had a friend tailing me with a zoom lens like one PP suggested.  For me, that would be a massive, unimaginable violation of trust. 

I want to be clear, I don't say this to be contrarian.  I know tons of women who loved it when their FIs had hidden photographers (or just regular photographers).  And plainly lots of the women on this board feel the same way.  Just understand that for some women, that would be a deeply upsetting experience, not a joyful one, and to please think about your girlfriend's opinions on these sorts of things and act accordingly.

cwaggoner07

I had a friend get engaged at Sea World while getting a picture taken. When she went to the bathroom he found someone quickly, and told them what was happening, and when she got back asked the 'stranger' to take their pic. Then he was like, I want one without my backpack, so he swung his backpack off, pulled the ring out, and got on one knee, and the person took pics the entire time.
It was really sweet.
My H had his friends there with us, and they took video and pictures, and I am so glad to have those memories.

MrsH8611

I know I  loved it. I love be able to see his face and remembering it when he was proposing, it went so fast and was totally unexpected that I don't remember half of it.

If she for some reason doesn't want pics taken.... easy, delete them.

cnf2013

My FI proposed in private, just the two of us and our dog hiking in the snow at the summer camp we met at. I love that the moment was something special we shared privately. Though I do wish he had planned for photos, either with the gorillapod or a photographer. But even without pictures, I'm happy with it.

Like everyone else said, you know her better than us, so figure out if this is something she'd want and plan accordingly. 

sparkles776

My FI ended up telling someone near by what was going to happen, so I do have pics and I love them. I didnt know that they were happening so my reaction is very genuine. I agree, it is a private moment and they definitely are not pictures I would frame and put in my house, but I am so happy to have them. I agree with the PPs, you know her best, if its something you think she would like, go for it.

Sarah Vorherr2Jung

As others have said, it really depends on your SO. If you think she'd like it, then go for it. If you think she'd like memories of the moment without anyone ele being there when it happens / anyone else knowing when it'll happen before her (how I feel) then set up a hidden camera to film and/or come up with an excuse to be taking pics and/or video yourself when you ask.

Good luck!

Apples2013

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[QUOTE]Hi everyone, What do you think about proposing during pictures?  I am trying to catch her offguard and propose during picture taking.  I want the photographer to capture the moment and will also capture my proposal on video.  This will totally be unsuspected.  Anyone have thoughts about this?
Posted by jyeh74[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>My fiance just proposed to me and caught the whole event on camera and on video. He was sneaky about it and used a tri-pod to mount his camera to with a remote to snap the pics. He also used a Go-Pro camera for the video that he mounted to the top of the camera (which I didn't even notice) We use the tri-pod as a  method of picture taking any time we are on vacation so we can get great shots of us both with the landscaping. Although the proposal itself was very private, I love that I have pics of the moment along with the video to show off to my family and friends.</div>

marshaa8

I think that's romantic!  Obviously, the photographer should probably be in on it- you could do it at the very end of the shoot so that after the photographer gets the pic/video, they could leave and give you some alone time together- perhaps even coming across a bottle of champagne or sparkling cider and a rose after so you can celebrate the moment- but that totally depends on you and your lady!  Have fun!