Announcing Engagement to Friends?

NGatorsT · January 2010

My fiance and I very recently got engaged after dating for 7 years. Our familes already both know, but we have not announced our engagement to our friends yet.

We are contemplating having a family only wedding because the size of the wedding would get VERY large VERY quickly if we and our parents invited friends as well. Should we wait to tell our friends in the event we have a family only wedding or is it ok to tell our friends even though they might not come to our wedding?

rainsfallsoftly · January 2010

I think your friends would be upset if they found out you had been engaged for months and hadn't told them. Tell them now, and when the time comes to decide what type of wedding you are having, I am sure they will understand if you can only afford family. You could always invite them all over after the wedding/honeymoon for a friends' party/reception at your house.

SarahPLiz · January 2010

Go ahead and tell them. Announging an engagement does not = an invitation to a wedding. Lots of people do it on Facebook after they have informed family. I'm sure your closest friends would like to be informed in person or over the phone. YOu could also put an announcement in the newspaper.

If someone asks you about the wedding, though, feel free to tell them that you are having a small ceremony with family only. There is nothing wrong with that.

Inviting them to an engagement party or any other pre wedding party, does, however indicated that they will be invited to the wedding, so be careful of that.