Engaged and overwhelmed

MauiC

Hi there all!

November 13th my boyfriend proposed. Now I am totally overwhelmed. I have no idea where to start. I am not sure what kind of wedding I want but I have already been on a preliminary dress hunting excursion with my mother.

Can anyone maybe ask me some questions or maybe help me decide where to start with this?

Thanks!

~Maui!

stinkerbell6879

What type of wedding...Small or big? Budget? Who will help contribute to that budget?and then look on you local board for ideas or if you choose a destination that board...Good luck

arixana

Take a deep breath. Relax. You've got plenty of time.

First thing.....pick the date. This is important based upon availability of your venue. Talk to your future hubby and discuss the following:

In order to pick the venue, you must decide how big the wedding is going to be. 5 people? 25? 100 or more?

Do you want a casual wedding or formal?

Take a look at this website to get ideas, there are plenty of weddings featured here. The venue sets the tone for the whole wedding. Church? or outdoor wedding? etc.

I wouldn't pick out your dress until you get a sense of what kind of wedding it would be. Or even what season it is in.

Above all else, make sure you enjoy this time. It is so special! And congratulations! You'll find your way. Maybe your FH will have some ideas too. Mine sure did, he surprised me with details that he would like, it became a good exercise in compromise. Have fun!

PrincssGS

I got engaged about a month and a half ago and was also very overwhelmed and had nooo idea where to start.  The best thing to do right now is to pick a date and my best friend now is TK checklist...it tells you exactly what you need to do and when

I <3 Seabass

I would start with budget and the size of your wedding. Those are the major things that will help you deterime what type of wedding you will have.

Definetly hold of on the dress until you make up your mind about what type of wedding you'll be having.

Check out these articles for advice on getting started.

http://www.soulfulengagements.com/1/category/getting%20started/1.html

emarston1

I agree with the PP about talking with your FI about what he wants for the wedding as well.  FI and I talked early on (and actually before we got engaged) about where we wanted to get married and a few other details (location, colors, time of year) etc.

You'd be surprised as to what they really care about and what they want for the wedding.  Things I thought he wouldn't care about he actually was pretty opinionated about (in a good way!)

Good luck and happy planning!  The Knot is a great resource for all things wedding related but also remember not to get sucked in by all of it.  Just because another bride is having something at her wedding doesn't mean you need it and vice versa.

swim1011

First: sit back and relax, and enjoy the feeling for a bit.  You don't have to start planning this very second.  The most important thing is budget- this can dictate how many people and where you'll be having your wedding/ reception.  It may also make your date vary, if you don't have any money saved, and your parents aren't paying for everything, or anything at all.

Once you have a budget, pick a date and then you can do all sorts of fun stuff, like get an idea for venues, photographers, etc.  Hold off on BM and wedding dresses until you're a year or under out, because your taste will change with all the new dresses that come out every season!