Hi everyone! My fiance and I have been together for 2 years and he proposed right before the New Year...wheee! We've been talking about marriage for over a year now so it's VERY exciting that this is happening.
I wanted to ask your opinion about something and that I recently realized. I don't know if I'm being paranoid or a total bitch, but I trust that someone here will give it to me straight.
Last year for Christmas, my boyfriend (now fiance), brought my family this beautiful wrought iron tree (tabletop) with matching ornaments. I was invited to his family's home for Christmas Eve, so I took them a holiday themed serving tray and candy holder (with homemade cookies displayed on the tray, and homemade toffee in the candy holder).
My parents also gave him a nice button down shirt and cardigan (my mom and I had seen it and thought it would look nice). However, I didn't receive anything from his family. They did invite me to a dinner dance on New Year's Eve, which I went to (they paid for my ticket, even after I offered to pay for it myself). During the dinner dance, they handed out gifts to all their family members who also attended, but not me. Not that I was expecting one, but I was taken aback seeing the gifts they had bought for everyone else, but thought...you know what, it was nice of them to pay for my ticket. That was that.
Fast forward to this year: I bought his parents a stainless steel serving tray (because his mom was looking for one), which took me maybe 3 weeks to find (just the right one!), which they absolutely loved. However, my FI did not bring anything for my family. I was invited again to the dinner dance, where I again offered to pay for my own ticket- they refused, where again they passed gifts to everyone there - but me.
Does anyone else find that odd? I mean, I don't take gifts to others and expect something back, but I'm starting to think there's something behind their lack of gesture? Plus, I'm a little disappointed that my FI didn't show some sort of token of appreciation for my parents during the holidays. I feel like my parents treat him very well... he's always over for dinner, and my dad has been like a second father to him this year (since FI's dad has started working overseas, 6 months at a time).
Am I wrong to have these feelings? Or am I just being a brat?