Announcing on FB?

brontebabe

Hi!  My FI and I decided to get married last weekend, and he asked for my dad's blessing so my parents know, but other than that we haven't told anyone.  We're waiting until we go ring shopping, after he gets paid (next week).  We plan on telling our immediate family and closest friends in person or on the phone, but after that I was thinking of posting an engagement announcement on FB.  What do you all think about that?  Is it tacky, or trendy?  I have seen lots of them lately.  About 7 or 8 of my friends and family members have gotten engaged in the past couple of months, and they all did about the same thing on FB; a picture of the ring (close-up, just the knuckle and the ring) with a caption saying "I'm engaged!!"  One person said "He liked it, so he put a ring on it!"  Other than that they were all the same.  I'm trying to think of cute ways to announce it, maybe similar but more unique?  He and I have been together for a long, long time, and his family and mine have been bugging us about getting married for awhile now.  I'm so excited, and keeping it a secret is so hard!  Thanks, y'all!

sonya+adam

Hello! First of all, congratulations!

To answer your question, if you plan on telling the important people in your life first, then I don't see anything wrong with doing that on Facebook. That's what I did. 

cwaggoner07

Make sure that when you tell people in person to tell them NOT to post it on facebook. When we got engaged I tried to call my sister, and she didn't answer, so I started calling my friends. One of them posted it on facebook, and that's how my sister found out :-/

It was pretty bad, so just make sure everyone knows you want to make the FB announcement.

And FWIW, I think the close up pics of the ring on FB are kind of tacky. But I think the whole 'Show me your ring!' thing after you get engaged is pretty tacky in general.

thejucheidea

My parents and I both found out about my sister's engagement (to her skanky boyfriend of six months) via Facebook, so please, for the love of god, make sure your important people know before posting anything to Facebook .

tiny speck

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[QUOTE]Make sure that when you tell people in person to tell them NOT to post it on facebook. When we got engaged I tried to call my sister, and she didn't answer, so I started calling my friends. One of them posted it on facebook, and that's how my sister found out :-/ It was pretty bad, so just make sure everyone knows you want to make the FB announcement. <strong>And FWIW, I think the close up pics of the ring on FB are kind of tacky. But I think the whole 'Show me your ring!' thing after you get engaged is pretty tacky in general.</strong>
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. If people want to see my ring in person, fine, but there's no need to post a picture of it for everyone on my friends list to see and show to everyone they know.

thejucheidea

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Announcing on FB? : I agree with this. If people want to see my ring in person, fine, but there's no need to post a picture of it for everyone on my friends list to see and show to everyone they know.
Posted by tiny speck[/QUOTE]
One of my friends actually asked her friends if we wanted to see pictures of her ring because she was reticent to do so. I thought that was a good way to go about it rather than just posting a bunch of pictures to rub it in people's faces.

brontebabe

Thank you guys for the responses and input.  I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks the whole "here's a gigantic picture of my hairy knuckle with a rock on it" thing is a bit tacky.  It also didn't help that when my friends and family members were posting the pictures, I was suffering from major Lady in Waiting Syndrome and I just about burst into tears everytime I saw one.  I thought maybe I was just being bitter about it.  Ahstillwell, I found out about my 20 year old little cousin's engagement to her horrible BF of about 6 months via FB, so I know what you mean! 

If you were planning a FB announcement, how would you do it?  Any cute ideas?

Thanks again!

samantha24p

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_announcing-on-fb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:84db2ad8-30c0-48d7-9d31-b1ab0066c0cfPost:74d69820-0364-4958-8570-ab64e6dfe1b4">Re: Announcing on FB?</a>:
[QUOTE]Make sure that when you tell people in person to tell them NOT to post it on facebook. When we got engaged I tried to call my sister, and she didn't answer, so I started calling my friends. One of them posted it on facebook, and that's how my sister found out :-/ It was pretty bad, so just make sure everyone knows you want to make the FB announcement. And FWIW, I think the close up pics of the ring on FB are kind of tacky. But I think the whole 'Show me your ring!' thing after you get engaged is pretty tacky in general.
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]



That's how FI's family found out. My Mom and Aunt posted it on FB and tagged us and his cousin told his Grandma who called his parents. We were so bummed out because we wanted to tell them in person.

2inloveejje

I know we plan on announcing it on Facebook. We've already been planning the wedding and haven't told anyone. He wants to propose properly instead of just saying "I want to be married with you. Lets set a date." LOL...which was cute since he stumbled the whole way. He is getting the ring and said he wants to propose. I am a Facebook fan and am on there all the time. Not only for personal use, but my wedding and event planning company reaches out to brides via Facebook, Twitter, and my blog, which posts on FB after I publish the post.

For us, we are planning on doing something really cute. We have family all over the world, so this is the cheapest and funniest announcement for us. We plan on saying in my status, "He stole my heart & I am stealing his last name." and he plans on putting "She said yes." Tagging each other and putting the new life event of being in a relationship to being engaged.

It may seem weird we planned this out, but we both doing business online (his whole business is online) and we are social media freaks.

firsttimersluck

We contacted parents and other close family/friends. Then posted it on Facebook. We actually waited about a month before doing so so that we made sure we didn't forget anyone! 

There is, of course, nothing wrong with announcing on FB after you cover your bases! A lot of those people may not live near you anymore, have the same numbers, etc. They are on your fb to keep up with what's going on in your life.. and an engagement is a big event! 

It's interesting that people feel the way they do about posting of the ring... 

The moment I put up I was engaged on FB most people said "Congratulations!................ LET'S SEE THE ROCK!" 

I hadn't planned on posting a picture, but after about 30 of those, I felt obligated. Maybe my fb just has a much younger generation so all the ladies want the ring porn..? Not sure. I felt a little tacky posting it (and I think I actually took it down shortly thereafter) but people asked so... 

BostonGIrl4732

My FI and I had to be careful with FB.  We got engaged on vacation and he forgot his cell phone charger so he didn't have a phone for a week.  We told my family but didn't have numbers for his so we had to wait until we got home.  We locked down of FB walls and told people we weren't putting in on FB yet, but one aunt still managed to comment on a photo about how excited she was that we were engaged and how she couldn't wait to see the ring when we got home.  I deleted the comment right away, but it was a close call.

So make sure you tell people not to post.  Just locking down your wall might not work!

KateHayley

Congrats!
Similar to what a lot of people are saying, I agree, make sure you tell the important people in your life first (in person or over the phone) before you put it on FB, and let your friends know if you have reservations about THEM posting it on THEIR FB wall right away (ie. before you've had a chance to tell everyone you wanted to).

My parents were on a cruise in ALsaka when I got engaged, and it was hard to get in contact with them immediately. My finace and I called all his family, and then I just had to tell someone, so I called about 4 of my friends, but made them promise not to put anything on FB yet because I hadn't told my mom (who has FB, and could have seen - awful!). Eventually, later that day, I got in touch with my parents, and after I told them I posted on FB myself and changed my relationshuip status to 'engaged'. It's actually so lovely all the comments you get from old friends when you post (:
xo

daizedoo

I had to wait about 2 weeks to post on Facebook, because he wanted to tell both his parents in person (they are divorced, so this took some time). Once everyone knew, I posted a photo I had taken of my ring. It wasn't a close up photo of the ring but a picture of my left hand (with ring) against a view of a gorgeous Maui beach. I had taken this photo minutes after getting engaged. Since I had been waiting for a LONG time for this to happen (and so was everyone in my life) I didn't see this as tacky

nikole712

I made sure all close family and friends were told in person or over the phone before announcing on FB. I did nothing creative to announce on FB, I just changed my Relationship Status to "Engaged" and did not post a picture of my ring.

bznbc2008

When I got engaged a almost two weeks ago, we ran all over NJ & DE(We have an LDR relationship) for most of the evening to make sure all the important family members saw and were told before we announced it on facebook. I recieved phone calls and text messages from everyone saying how classy I did it and just tell them how much of family is more important towards our wedding day then anything. So, the important ones know first- then the facebook people know last.

eelsbury08

I called all of the important people first and then put it on facebook. People asked to see my ring so I put a picture of it on for them to see.

eelsbury08

i called all the important people and then posted it on facebook

RoxyandJc

I do not have Facebook, but my fiancé does. We just agreed that he would not announce anything. All he did was change his status to "engaged" and he later showed me all the congratulation comments, which was nice. Also, I find posting a picture of the ring is very tacky. The ring is such a personal thing.