Help! My mother passionately wants me to get married in our home state (VA) and my fiance passionately wants to get married in his home state (NC). There's not really anywhere significant to wed in between the two home towns. If I choose my state, more of my family will be able to come but if I choose his state, more of our mutual friends and his grandfather (who can't travel) will be able to come. I'm totally torn and would be happy with either site - both places are very significant and I don't have a strong preference. My parents are paying for it, so I believe that gives them a say. Neither side is budging and both are trying to persuade me over to their side. My mom is especially holding her ground. How do I decide or is there another alternative that would make everyone happy?