New knottie here! I'm in my mid-40s, first time engaged.
My super awesome fiance and I are starting to ring shop. He wants me to pick the ring out so he gets something I like.
Since he's not a good shopper in general, I'm trying to go to some places on my own and find some rings I like, and then we'll hopefully go back together and look at them. Hopefully then he won't be overwhelmed or bored with the shopping!
Problem is, I'm not finding a ring that jumps out and says, "pick me!" There are a lot of lovely rings, and I do like quite a number of them. At a typical jewelry store, I'm finding 4-6 possibilities, all of which I like. Those possibilities are in quite a few different styles, so its not like there's even a good hint at what I really want!
I haven't been a big jewelry wearer in general, which might be part of the problem. I developed an allergy to some metal (probably nickel) in high school, and stopped wearing all jewelry for over 20 years. I couldn't even wear glasses with metal frames! I do think my allergy has gotten a little better in the last few years, or they are using less nickel in stuff (I have a few necklaces that I can wear now) but I still have to coat the button on my jeans with nail polish or I get a rash on my tummy! I believe I won't have a problem with 14 or 18 kt gold, as long as the alloy doesn't have nickel in it, although I might go with platinum just to be sure.
Anyway, I think my past experience with not wearing jewelry has meant that I haven't really developed any particular style for myself, or looked at much jewelry.
So I'm seeing all these rings and they're pretty and I like them, but I can't seem to narrow things down that much. It's a bit frustrating not knowing what I'm looking for when I'm visiting the shops.
Should you just know the ring when you see it? Or is it a case of just picking one out of the lot at random? I can't see how I wouldn't be happy with any of them, but would it bug me that none of them are standouts for me? It is slightly stressful to shop without a good idea of what I like or want.
Part of me wishes he'd picked it out himself and gone with the surprise thing!