Stressing Myself Out!

Christie8182

Hi ladies!  So...the ring will be on my finger in one month, 15 years after the day we met!  (We met when we were teenagers, led separate lives, and found our way back to each other.)  I've always known he was the man I would marry!  I'm so excited to spend the rest of my life with him! 
Problem is...I've started looking at dresses and cakes and colors, etc.  I've already stressed myself out!  We're not getting married for two years!  What have I done?  We've talked about what we want as far as the wedding and stuff, but I really want to be in that blissful state of being engaged!  How do I get there?  I don't want to plan anything right now!  Help!

PandaBurr

Getting off a wedding website would be a good first step.

Dferrari17

I would say getting off the website may help... but in all reality it is fun to look! I can say I was one of those lurkers for a bit before I was engaged. My only advice would be to not overdo it right now. The hardest thing about long engagements is the possibility of getting tired of wedding planning. There is nothing wrong with looking around and getting an idea of what you want but doing that too much now could make the final wedding planning hell.

Of course, like me, once you get over the initial shock of being engaged you might be able to forget the wedding planning for a bit. Just enjoy being engaged and learning to use the term "fiance"! Congrats

Jelenny

getting off the wedding websites.....

also be honest with people - I know I got bombarded right away, when where, who, colors, dress....ACK let me enjoy this!  I told people I will tell you when we make decisions or move forward until then I am happily engaged and want to enjoy it.

lakiascott29

I am in the same boat as you, Christie8182. My weddding date is 9/8/2012 and I am already stressing about the costs of everything. Part of me wants to look now so that I'll  know what to expect when we get closer to the date but then when I find out the cost I get stressed out...it's crazy...honestly I think I am going to take a break from researching everything and maybe start back up in a few months...  

kjs08

I was a lurker like dferrari before I was engaged. My wedding is about a year out and I'm enjoying being engaged, but as far as planning is going at the moment for me, I'm looking for ideas for various things since I'm not sure what I like(flower arrangements, invites, centerpieces, etc.) but the only thing my FI and I are focused on currently is a venue. Where we're getting married is a VERY popular area for weddings so most venues get booked anywhere from a year or more in advanced so that's our first step. Everything else is "fluff" till we book a venue. But I agree with PP's, get off the website if it's driving you nuts.