Choosing a Date

kawess

Hi All!

I just got engaged on Valentine's Day, and am so excited!! FI and I chose a date in May 2013, but then I didn't get in to nursing school. Unfortunately, I have to change schools, and now my schedule is completely screwed up. We are trying to decide if we should try to have the wedding during my christmas/spring break, or just wait until I graduate (May 2014, hopefully). Has anyone done/is doing this? I am nervous that I will be too stressed to enjoy it, but don't really want to wait 2+ years. Ugh!

cwill6212

My FI and I got engaged on Xmas Eve 2010.  At that point, I still had 2 years of school left and even though we would have preferred a wedding after graduation, we decided not to wait that long. We're getting married on 6/2/12 and I can tell you that it is stressful to balance work, school and wedding planning. BUT, it can be done. AND, I can honestly say that I've enjoyed the wedding planning. Only now, with 93 days to go am I feeling really stressed and that's only because I am afraid of overlooking an important detail.

So-I say all of that to say, if you want to get married in May 2013, then make it happen. My advice to you would be to start researching asap---and make big decisions early (budget, venue, colors, etc) Then you can work a little at a time to get everything accomplished.

Good luck!

Danny&Mel2003

I work go to school an wedding planning and let me tell you wedding planning is way more distracting. That said it can be done. I've been engaged since May 2011 and our wedding is May 2013 I'm so grateful we had 2 yr engagement ... We are able to really research our vendors and take our time.

kawess

Thank you ladies! I am feeling a lot more at ease about it now!

jagore08

I planned my wedding around nursing school.  We decided on a Sunday during Memorial weekend so I didn't have to miss school (our wedding was across country).  It was difficult because I had clinical the day I left for our wedding and finals the week after I got back.  If you want to get married next year, it's do-able.  But if you wait until you graduate it might be a little less stressful than having to deal with school at the same time.

Bett2012

FI and I are both in school 12 months a year for 5 years (just under 1.5 left!).. we have also been dating since grade 11... coming up on 5 years. For various other reasons, waiting for marriage until we both graduate was not an option.. so we are literally getting married on a weekend two weeks into the school term and going back to classes on monday.. it's up to you and your values.

Would you rather get married now and possibly struggle a little more financially? Would you rather wait 2-3 years to save up money and wait on getting married? Would you rather plan a wedding while in school or while in a job/looking for a job? etc. It's completely up to you and your values.

nextrightthing

I'm graduating law school in May, and not even considering planning anything until after the Bar Exam in July.  I'm sure it will be late 2013 before we can logistically do it.  I figure, we are going to be together for life, so the wedding is a technicality and I'd rather not stress about it!

mandi921vh

We are having an almost 2 year engagement because I wanted to finish grad school and have enough time to plan my wedding slowly because I was not only a grad student but also 300 miles away from the wedding location.

Do what feels right to you. There is nothing wrong with a longer engagement.