New to the Board-Hello! I think I am being proposed to this Friday...And kind of freaking out!

jumpinginthepool

Hi!

It may sound presumptious, however my boyfriend is pretty easy to read and can't tell a lie with a straight face.  I think he plans on proposing this Friday.   He came over last week all smiles, I asked him what was up and he said he couldn't tell me:)  We have been discussing getting engaged.  While we never looked at rings together, he has seen pics and knows what I would like.  Friday is a mystery "picnic" that I know nothing about other then its a "picnic."   This weekend he made a couple of small remarks about being worried about money.   He has a good job/decent salary but knowing him I feel like if he made a big purchase he would be a little worried. 

Ok so aside from those details, I am freaking out!  I am nervous; thinking about his dogs, his house (that needs to be sold), our family's reaction, if hes the right person for me, money, future kids, blah blah blah.  I have wanted him to ask for sometime and now I feel like I am going nuts internally.  It hasn't happened yet but my gut tells me Friday is the day.   I was engaged several years ago, and I broke it off.  The guy was a jerk.  No regrets there.  However I am thinking what if I break this one off?  I know I love him to death but my mind is on overdrive right now.  Being "rational" is out the window.  We are both 32, and NO it is not a case of "I think I should get married because of my age."   I have a pretty lucrative career that I went to school for forever, and I am very used to being independent. 

I want the moment to be perfect.  Jitter free:)   I read an article on here regardng this issue and it said to look at the message boards....if I am on the wrong one please redirect me!   Sorry for the manifesto!!!!  

Jumpin'

jumpinginthepool

AND OMG!   I am not JUMPIN IN THE POO!!!  Its supposed to be jumpininthepool!!!!!  LOL!  

future-mrs

First, let him propose in his own time, don't say anything else, this is his deal.  Also, I think if you're having all these doubts I think you might want to re-think some things.  It's ok to be nervous but it's not ok to doubt your entire relationship.  If you want to marry him and spend the rest of your life with him...then ok.  I just see some red flags...

If you do get engaged, stop stressing.  Everything will fall into place.

brilibby4

First of all, as hard as it might be, try not to be expecting a proposal Friday.  Many of the women here (myself included) will tell you they expected a proposal a certain day/trip/etc. and were disappointed.  Try to enjoy the picnic as nothing other than a sweet day planned by your bf.  However, if you are this unsure, I feel you should talk to your bf NOW about everything before he embarrasses himself or you agree to something you aren't positive about.  No one should become engaged without being 100% sure they are both ready.  Don't freak out but have a calm conversation with him about your feelings.  I hope everything works out!

jelique7

not to burst your bubble but, i am engaged but i am waiting on him to get me a ring. I proposed to him and he said he is going to get down on 1 knee and ask me when he has a ring...i guess he wanted to make sure or something lol idk...

anyways, right after our 1yr anni of being together (this was v-day) he was acting weird and i had caught him in a jewelry store earlier with his friend and he surprised me with a bracelet but i knew there  was more so he was in the kitchen fumbling around and he walked over to me very slowly (huge smile on his face) he got down on 1 knee and my mind went wild and i got so excited he had a little white jewelry box and said "will you...........................be my valentine" it was a diamond necklace....i was sooooo disappointed because i had set myself up.

I actually cried like a looser. don't set yourself up for disappointment...just let  yourself be surprised. i felt so dumb even though i loved my present it was not what i was hoping for.

tpender13

Please try to relax, and not have any expectations. Just take the picnic for the sweet gesture that it is. After 7 years of being together, there were sooooo many times I thought "Is he?" Honestly, the one time I let any expectations go and just enjoyed the moment w/out wondering, was when it happened.

Seriously though, if you're not expecting anything more than a romantic date, you won't be disappointed. If you're building it up to be something that it might not be, you could be let down.

That being said, we want an update on Saturday.

SarahSmile23

gosh, i was laughing so hard about your sn...it totally DOES look like "jumpin in the poo"...that i forgot what i was going to say! how funny! welcome and good luck.

btw, it's completely normal to be nervous and to question whether or not everything is right. just breathe and enjoy things as they come. it's great that you are independent, but it's also ok to share your life with someone.

becca846

Everyone keeps saying to relax and just prepare for a romantic date and don't think about what he might do, which I agree with (but yeah right haha, good luck with that!) I had to constantly psyche myself down anytime we went anywhere becuase he told me that he had a ring. Anytime we did ANYTHING I would think maybe now, or he'll do it this way. It's exhausting haha. He didn't propose in a way even REMOTELY close to what I had been thinking/imagining, and it was amazing, and I was extremely surprised.

Try not to think about it, although clearly you will be haha, just try not to cry if it doesn't happen like jelique and I did haha.

Sorona

So.. what happened?