I am soon to be engaged, and my boyfriend intends to speak with both of my parents about it before he proposes. My dad will be fine, thrilled for us, as long as I am happy. My mom, on the other hand, ever the cautious and careful one, who dated my stepdad for 7 or 8 years before getting engaged, will think it is too soon. A little background: my twin brother and I are 23, and we are her only children, so she's still getting used to us being grown. My boyfriend and I will have been together for a bit less than a year when we get engaged. We found each other on eHarmony (which I would highly recommend to anybody), and we began dating with the express intention of finding a spouse. This practice aligns with our faith and religious beliefs and values, which my mother does not share. He is 26, I am 23, we both have good jobs and have already discussed almost everything from finances to children to chores, and we know that this is right.
I am very close with my mom, and I am really worried about how she will react when the time comes. I know he is going to talk with her first, and while I know she will not do anything to try and deter us from getting married, she may not react favorably at least at first. She, by the way, had already been married to my dad for 2 years when she was my age.
Any suggestions for how to cope?