Newly engaged - family issue

BethanyShack13

Both of my fiancée's parents passed away while he was growing up. And his step mom passed away just this past year. I'm not sure what to do for father daughter dance ...If I should still have that pArt included if he has no one to dance with ... It's heartbreaking but do I give up that moment with my dad?

Zimsgirl

I think it's acceptable to just have the dance with your father

SomethingBlue01

Does he have anyone in his life he can dance with for the groom/mother dance? An aunt, grandmother or godmother? What about if your mom danced with him- he will after all be calling her "mom" pretty soon, and I think it's a nice gesture. 

cupcakeamber

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[QUOTE]Does he have anyone in his life he can dance with for the groom/mother dance? An aunt, grandmother or godmother? W<strong>hat about if your mom danced with him- he will after all be calling her "mom" pretty soon, and I think it's a nice gesture. </strong>
Posted by SomethingBlue01[/QUOTE]
this.

achiduck

You don't have to give up your father daughter dance. Like a PP sugested, your mom could dance with him or you could just not have one. At my friend's wedding there was no mother/son dance even so the grooms mom was still alive. They were just very shy and didn't want that kind of attention.

ehenry010

I've been to several weddings where they don't have a Mother/Son dance. I think you can still have your dance with your father and leave it at that.

meganb1977

Did you ask your fiance how he feels about it?  It might be that he understands and doesn't have a problem with you having a father daughter dance.  Perhaps he will have an idea of how he wants to honor the memory of his parents and stepmother and you can support his idea.

If you're recently engaged there will be plenty of time to work out these kinds of details so don't sweat it :-)  I'm sure your fiance will be understanding that the father daughter dance is important to you.

blgrout

I think it's ok to have a father/daughter dance with no son/mother dance.  That's what we're doing, and my FI's mom is alive and well and will be at the wedding, but neither one of them want to dance.  You might ask him how he feels about that, and suggest he dance with your mom, as PP suggested.  If he even wants to.  My Fi hates dancing, and has agreed to a first dance with me, and that is it.

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