What if I don't like the Ring???

bryanlovessarah

I have a very simple, lovely 2 carat ring in a plain setting, but I'd prefer something in a different setting.  Is it OK to have my diamond (beautiful) reset in a setting I LOVE?  And how do I ask or let my dear fiance know?

jagore08

If you setting is plain then there are more options for wedding bands.  How long have you been engaged?  Maybe you should let it sit for a while and look at wedding band options.

Elle1036

Wait a while.  Your tastes may change or the ring may grow on you.  It seems that that happens to a lot of girls in your situation.  If you still don't like it in several months, it's up to you to decide whether it's worth talking to your fiance about it.  Do you think he's the type to be hurt by that?

mymissingpuzzlepiece

I agree with pp, you should wear it for alittle while. It is possible that you may come to love the setting you have now, especialy since your FI picked it out for you. Then, if it really bothers you discuss it with him and hopefully he won't get hurt.

mfeo24

By "plain", do you mean a solitaire, or just something simple? I think some men buy a solitaire with a diamond of their choosing so they can surprise you and later let you pick a new setting. Like others said, wear it a while and try on some wedding bands with it - you may find a nice enhancement. He may also bring up letting you choose a new setting as you're shopping for wedding bands, if not, gently bring up that you thiink the diamond he chose would look lovely in something more your style.

achiduck

Wear it for awhile.. it may grow on you. If you feel like it's too plain you could always fancy it up with a wrap or a really sparkly wedding band.

fluttaby32

you could also get a wrap or insert, so you wouldnt be replacing the original setting, just adding to it.

mbody

I don't know if cost is an issue, but while my FI and I were ring shopping, I had the choice of either a 2 carat diamond on a solitare or a 1 carat on a setting which had diamonds all the way around. Obviously a 2 carat with a setting with diamonds all the way around is more money. I ended up choosing a 1 carat with diamonds all the way around but I definitely like the look of a 2 carat on a solitare. Very pretty! You can always get a fancier wedding band which would look nice.

Wear it for a bit and see if it grows on you. If not, then maybe say something.

rlavach

Like the PP said, wear it for a while and see if it grows on you. Mine did.

Talk to him about the ring by asking him how he picked it out, what he was thinking and what he likes about it. You'll likely learn a lot about his thought process. The fact that my FI went through so much just to get me the best ring he could get meant the most to me. Now I love it.

There have been several other posts of women who told their FI they didn't like it & it did NOT end well. Picking a ring is a very big deal to guys, even if they don't show it to you. So telling them you don't like it can crush them. Not all, but it appears that way for many.

We have already discussed expanding my ring within the next few years by adding on & getting a bigger center stone. But I let him bring that up, a few months later. It's all in the timing.

chelleski578

to me it not nessisary the "ring" that really should matter. It is the fact that the man Loves you enough to give you a token of his love. and it really should be the fact that you two are engaged and is about to spend rest of your life together. As for the ring, it is a mere symbol of his love if it not exactly what you had your heart set then well either learn to love the ring or atleast til maybe you and him could find something more in your taste, but i would do it tactically I mean rings no matter what it looks like isn't something guys will buy often and maybe if he is cool he will let you change or exchange it for something you like. another consideration is if the ring you do like was something he could afford. i think guys often would love to buy their girl the best ring ever but maybe when he was looking at rings he got something that was equally as nice but something little easier on his wallet. not saying you probably wasn't worth every penny just giving you another point of veiw.

desertmomnm

I don't know if I'd be upset at receiving a 2 carat diamond.  I'd look into getting a wrap or insert wedding band.  Some of them make it look like it's in a fancier setting. 

bryanlovessarah

I talked to the dear man, and asked him if it would be OK to change the setting, and he (to my relief) said "Fine Honey, whatever you want." So I went to Zales and picked out a beautiful white gold halo setting that I adore.  I think the lesson for me here is that its OK to ask for what I want.