19 years old, and engaged

BrittKnight

As an 'old' 23- year-old (almost 24!  haha), I feel 19 is so young!  I was still in college then and it was such a great time in my life.  Maybe you're more mature than I was, but I was more interested in hanging out with friends rather than being tied down...that's just me though.  I hope you're not rushing into it, like a lot of people unfortunately end up doing.  If you can handle it, good for you!  Congrats!

Mioh1

We're both 21 and congrats!
There's people out there who get engaged at a much younger age so don't worry.

JOldacre37

GIRL YES!!!! I got engaged at 19 im now 20 and will be married at 22.My engagement is 2 yrs long. Enjoy anyone say youre to young screw them because your marrage could be 1 of the few that lasts so good luck lovely.

AmberMDavis

I don't think there is really anything wrong with being married that young. My mom was married at 19, but that was also 30 something years ago. Alot has changed and unfortunately, now-a-days, it seems like they are doomed to fail. If you have TWO people working at the marriage when the "real" problems arise, you should be fine. If you are an immature relationship and haven't encountered many "hard issues" together, there could be problems in the future. BUT if you do run into problems one day, you can't look at it as a relationship where you can just run. Fight for what you wanted in the beginning. Marriage is a different road, you can just leave. It's not what you agreed to when you said "I do". Congrats and good luck!

nicweaver

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_19-years-old-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:fae15e84-3a1c-4492-96b6-2288e6303946Post:3e0b23da-666b-4032-8def-6893ab9969d6">Re: 19 years old, and engaged</a>:
[QUOTE]we are graduating from college this year and have had an apartment together for about a year.  We both pay our own bills and tuition and haven't been dependent on our parents financially for years.  We also won't be getting married until 2012, a year after graduation.  We have both been in long term relationships before meeting each other.  I think all of these factors make a big difference in our ability to be completely confident in our marriage despite our young ages.  I think it is very important to LIVE outside of high school (in the real world) before settling down.  My mother did not do this and ruined her marriage and my family years later because of finding the sudden need to find herself.  <strong>Please establish your independence before getting married. </strong>
Posted by brilibby4[/QUOTE]

I totally 100% AGREE! I am in a similar situation. My fiance and I have been together for over 4 years and we both are 21 and going to graduate college spring 2011, and also having the wedding in 2012. We have lived together for over 2 years and have our own resposibilities, bills, cars, apartment, ect.

The only thing I can not stand about young people being engaged or getting married is if they have been together for like two months, never lived together, don't have responsibilities, and don't have real world experience. You have to grow up and be adults before being married, it's a <strong>necessity</strong>.

jmh01777

Don't worry! I'm twenty, my fiance is 21, we just got engaged, you're not alone I'll be 22 or 23 when we do actually get married, waiting until I graduate. He just graduated and is out working. We plan on moving in together pretty soon. Do what's best for you and congratulations

christiancasey

Im also 19 and just got engaged and congrats on your engagement.

24stars

im also 19. i thought i was the only one! congrats and im here me and my FI are constantly getting told were too young.

slubkin

It all depends on the person, and where they're at with their lives.  My FI is younger than me, and to be honest, when I was his age I was TOTALLY not ready for marriage.  He's much more mature (not necessarily more responsible, but has his priorities set better) than I was that age. 

That said, I get a lot of flack from IRL friends about the fact that he is younger than me, but I shrug it off- when you're soulmates, age is pretty irrelevant, and I think it's stupid to think the man should be the older one.

So, I wouldn't presume to judge. 

agrego10

I just turned 20 and FI is 20. He tells me I get a ring soon, and we'll either be married at 21. We have been financially independent for years, we're both going to finish college, and we have the drive to work and study and live and grow old together because we know that our love is worth it. I think that if a person is confident in their decision and willing to spend their whole life with someone then their age is just a formality. We've known we wanted to get married since we were sixteen, and though we've changed SO MUCH since then, I swear this man gets better every day. Good luck!

eternalmaria

Wow, it's sooo nice to see people supportive of younger brides-to-be!

I am 18, and my fiance is 24. I'll be married when I"m 19 and a half and could not think of a better way to spend the rest of my life. Good luck to all those younger brides out there!

eternalmaria

Oh, and yes I will be finishing college and starting a career!

missfarar

I agree with StageManager, maturity level is what decides how you will be treated on the boards.

I will be just shy of 24 when I get married, FI will be almost 25. We've known each other since we were 16 and both had a ton of growing up to do at the time. I moved back to our hometown after college, we reconnected romantically and set a date. We both live completely independently and have been for the past 5 years. I think that was an important key in our maturing. 

The statistics are against younger couples, but I have seen ones that have been able to last. Both sets of my grandparents, my parents, and my oldest sister were all married by age 21. My other sister, however, has added to the statistic, there was a lot of growing up that needed to be done in that relationship, but they pushed marriage and it didn't work out.

I wish you the best of luck in your future.