PhD Setting Date-Help!
So my FI and I just got engaged and I'm kinda anxious about setting the date. Here's the situation: He currently lives in another state and I've just moved to TX for a PhD program. He has already requested a transfer here and been promised one when his current project is finished (that could be Feb or as late as June depending on variables). We're both in our early thirties, but don't plan kids... no rush there. I desperately want to be married at my parents home. For one thing, the yard is georgeous, for another it has enormous meaning to my family and me. If I want to go this route, it really needs to be a late summer wedding for weather reasons. He's not all that into the planning part. He's happy to help with doing things, but has been honest that with a few exceptions, doesn't really care about most of the choices to be made. I'm fine with that. I'm struggling with the idea of planning this wedding while living alone in a new city, so far from the venue, not knowing when my FI will get here. 10 months seems like a long time until I figure in the rediculous stress of this new program I'm in.... I actually put my underwear on inside out twice this week without noticing (I'm exhausted). I never knew I could endure this much stress with this little sleep, and now planning a wedding... sigh. I like the IDEA of getting married in August 2010, but am thinking of pushing it out till August 2011 to reduce stress, have him here for the process, have more time, adjust to all the other transitions in my life, etc. But OMG, 22 months????? I need a sounding board here. I don't want to half-a** our wedding. We both waited so long to meet "the one" and I want to really celebrate. At the same time, I feel like an engagement that long is anticlimatic. I can't decide. Any thoughts?