School and planning... ugh

Lala7819

So me and my fiance are both students.  I am a full time psychology and pre-pharmacy major (working for my second degree, but still undergrad :-/ )and he has a full time job along with part time school.  We are planning a destination wedding and my family and friends are scattered all over the place so everything happens on weekends... including my study time.  I find every time we work on wedding stuff I am thinking about what I need to do for school, and that the reverse is true also.   I'm sure others feel this way, but has anybody found a way to organize and focus when this is the case?  It just frustrates the heck out of me sometimes.  Knowing next semester my school schedule will be even fuller and my wedding will be coming at the beginning of summer I'm trying to find a way to just separate everything into little sections in my mind, as crazy as that sounds.

SuperFudge00

I am having a really hard time multi-tasking. I don't want to or can't stop thinking about this wedding. I have less than 2 months to go and almost the same amount left in the semester.

Color me overwhelmed!

Lala7819

That is so me next spring. Hope I figure it out before then, though.  That's why I'm concentrating on it now, hoping against hope that I'll be done come January and ignore it until May. (haha)

AmeliaAndSeth8890

I feel ya! My wedding isn't until 2012 but it falls in the middle of my first year of Grad School. My sister talked me down by telling me what SHE did - and obviously it worked for her as her wedding was beautiful, her marriage seems to be going well, and she graduated on time.

So here it is: She is/was super organized. What she did is she just put her wedding planning into her planner like it was another class. She literally called it "Wedding Class" and had it fit into her school/work schedule. She would say "Wedding Class Flowers" and block off some time. She scheduled it so that it wouldn't be overwhelming or stressful. If she had a big test/final/project she would avoid scheduling WC right before or on the say of this thing and would do it a day or two later.

She said it helped her keep track of her time for everything so well that she still does it for bigger events. I plan on doing this when I really get into my planning in a few months. Hope that helps! I have posted it on a few other boards but it really seemed to work!

Good luck and Congrats!

TheKnittingJedi

I know what you mean, FI and I are both in our senior year and getting ready to graduate. I'm working two jobs as well as school full time, so all of our planning gets done on the weekends. It gets pretty crazy sometimes and I'm really looking forward to graduating in May, then we'll have a few months before the wedding to get the last details taken care of!

lmrini89

Yeah. It's been hard. My FI and I go to college both full time in Minnesota but our wedding is in about 3 weeks (yay!!!) in Michigan where we are from and all our family and friends live. We've been engaged for a little over a year and whenever I would go home for breaks is when I would get a ton of wedding stuff done. It helps too to have people to help you when you can't do something. My sister and my mom do that for me.
What I always do is make sure to do my school work and focus on that especially when I'm at school.
Do wedding planning in big chunks. Maybe assign specific days to do item #1, 2,3, 4, 5, & 6 off your list, etc. Then the rest of the time focus on school.
There is hope. I have been freaking about because I felt like I didn't have enough wedding stuff done for the last year. lol. But just last week I realized, I have this under control, my wedding is going to be fine.
Now my freaking out about school!  
I pray a lot and trust that my Jesus will help me through all of this!

All about balance.

TAMARAJOY516

I am only taking 7 credit hours next semester and I'm not even going to attempt to take sumer school classes. right now school is definitely being pushed aside because I am so consumed with wedding planning and saving for the wedding.

vlknox

I completely understand where you are coming from.  Our wedding is in Lake Placid, NY next October... so we have to have everything in place for our guests by January! I'm a PhD student in engineering so I've been going insane trying to do research, school work and planning.

Hang in there! It will all be worth it in the end, I know it!

Lala7819

Hah, to top it all off for me, we just got a new dog.  Oh my crazy life.  Had to skip an exam this week cause it was the dogs first day home (thank goodness a missed exam is built into the grading scheme for that class, they drop the lowest grade), and when I'm trying to get my DIY projects done for the wedding the new dog is all over it.  I'm tempted to put paint on his paws and have him stamp everything instead of making a monogram, haha.  I'm getting through it slowly but surely, and praying organic chem next semester goes alright dispite all the crazy wedding stuff.

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I am in the same boat. I'm graduating 3 weeks before our wedding! And to top it all off, my fiance will have 2 more years of school left in a different city so I will also be looking for a job up there and in the process of moving while trying to finish school and plan our wedding down here. Hopefully I will have a lot of help from my family to get this done. At least I have till June 2012 to do everything!

Brittany&Patrick

Hey Lala! Im in my 5th year of pharmacy now (for some schools that is year 3) and planning as well.  I am not sure when your wedding date is but  watch out when you learn pharmacology and medicinal chemisty, for me those were the toughest classes and I couldnt imagine studying and planning during that year. Hope this helps...