Pre-med wondering when to tie the knot?

tracycalhoun

Okay so I'm totally new at this so please bear with me! I am a planner and I'd like to hear from anyone whose been through grad school/sort of in the same situation!

I'm 20 and the FH is 21. We live together, he's my best friend, and the love of my life. He is planning on proposing in September, except its going to be kept between the two of us until after we graduate (and he will propose again [lol] in front of our families). We have both talked to our families and they understand, but they want us to wait. We had these plans set - and I guess you could see it as more of a promise to get engaged? We are officially going to be engaged when we both graduate from college - however we are BOTH pre-med!! We are taking a year off between graduating and med school but at this point, I'm assuming we will not be getting married during that year off. There just won't be enough time - and realistically we only have enough money (plus tons of loans) to support ourselves through med school. So my question is - how did it work for you? I've read that between the first/second year or second/third year are options. Did anyone have a civil ceremony and then a "wedding" later on?

I'm not in a rush to get married - we already function as a married couple, minus the title and the tax deduction. But realistically, I don't really want to wait 5+ years (btw did I mention his heart is set on surgery so loans will be piling up!!). 

Anyone with any advice on this subject would be greatly appreciated! Thank you

tracycalhoun

Thanks for your post, De Velasquez. I do feel that marriage does bring a sense of stability - but that wouldn't be my primary reason for the marriage (not that that was what you were implying). 

kappa09 - I realize that it may seem like I'm planning way too far in the future but I have a plan for my life because that is how I ensure I stay on track and reach my goals. Up until awhile ago, life has been all about me and my goals and now I'm trying to fit my new goals into the old. I realize a lot of it depends on medical school applications and acceptances - but I'm having some faith, hoping for the best and preparing for the worst. I just posted up here hoping to get some insight for some insight on how I can make it all work And I won't just be applying within California - I'm applying throughout the US and in Canada.

De Velasquez

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_students_pre-med-wondering-tie-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:684Discussion:3eb147f6-b43c-4987-b6ce-a0b5e1074a56Post:99a2c931-e1de-4133-ac10-0f1068776bed">Re: Pre-med wondering when to tie the knot?</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks for your post, De Velasquez. <strong>I do feel that marriage does bring a sense of stability - but that wouldn't be my primary reason for the marriage</strong> (not that that was what you were implying).  k[/QUOTE]

<div>Then, what is your primary reason of getting married? I think that's what you should ask yourself, and, as I said, define your priorities in life.  I hope this could be of help for you.</div>