Young Love

Chloeagh

brittanyzim....Have you checked out the satutory rape laws in your state? Because having sex with a minor that is 5 years younger than you is illegal in most places and marriage would essentially be proof of that.

brittanyzim

I'm aware. But not when all parents agree with us being together and we have never even came close to having sex once. Not everyone has premarital sex.

Chloeagh

But if you get married, it is assumed that you are having sex. So if you will be a minor on your wedding day and your husband is 5 years older than you, the state could refuse to grant you a marriage license. Parental approval doesn't make satuatory rape legal.

brittanyzim

Actually in my state I won't be a minor. And with parental consent, I can get married. It's different for every state. And I'd be at the age of consent.

Chloeagh

I just wanted to make sure you had checked, because in many states, the age of consent is 16, but it is still illegal to have sex with someone more than 4 years older until you are 18.

brittanyzim

Yeah, of course I had checked But in my state, it would be legal as long as I'm 17.

celesteks99

Hello everyone, sorry i have not been on here.  To start off with, we are definetly not getting married for the sex. We are not that kind of couple;rather be spending quality time or going out somewhere. His parents are very negative towards the whole idea.  They are praying we brake up actuelly.  They believe were in it for the sex and that i am afraid he is going to leave me.  They believe that this is all my idea and it is only me who wants it (that im forcing him to get married to me?) Me and my fiance (Andrew) are getting threten by them now.  There saying they won't ever help us out with money, there not gonna co-sign for him on anything, that he has to pay back all the money they spent on him from the soccer; basically it is all bout money to them, although they say they are extremly religous.  They also think i just want to have wedding and plan a wedding/be a bride.  Me and Andrew have discussed how we would love to plan the wedding together and how the experience would be amazing but we always thought about having a really small wedding with just family and then having our vows renewed and have a larger wedding in the future.  My parents on the other hand, think we should wait but are very supportive and although they dont agree they still said they will support whatever decision we make.  The college part, we both like the same colleges, were very open and accepting with desicions like that.  i have not made a chioce of what i am goiing to do yet.  i will be gradueating highschool being a certified EKG technicion and also certified in phlebmoty and i am most likely gonna wait/debating on waiting going to college.  And please notice that the desicion is very up on the air, i honestly would like to take a break from school and work.  I am aware that people change but i believe two can change together, we have over the last 4 years. We went from being kids to teenagers and we believ we can change into adults together too. We have a very strong belief in god and have always been religous.  We go to church together every weekend and have been tlking to our preist bout the decision.  Going into the topic of getting in the same college, and if one doesnt get in, well we both have high gpa's and a lot of high qualifications so we know that will not be a problem.   The financial part is the only part we are iffy about but me leaving highschool certified i believe i will be able to make more money then useal, along with 6,000$ dollars i get when i gradueate/turn 18.  The main confusion we have right now is insurence issues and how that works. i have been contacting my moms insurence lady and going over all those rules how you get taken off when your independent, or the by the age 26, etc.  thanks guys for the comments and opinions, it is helping.  We do not know for sure what we are doing yet, other peoples input helps alot. thanks!

celesteks99

And when I say take a break from work I mean school work! If I do wait to go to college then I just want to focus on my job and financial independency