I am getting married in November (theoretically) and want to get the planning done early because I have to start internships and labs later this summer that will pretty much take over my life. I told everyone in my wedding and all of the family this about three days after getting engaged. They seem cool with it and are trying to be more than helpful. Also, we figured starting to pile stuff up and lay things away would help since we're on a budget.
Recently, I posed a question about indecisive bridesmaids on another board. All the question asked was how to get them to decide on dresses and did not mention anything about when to order them. Several of the ladies seemed quite upset at the thought that I was asking them to even think about it this early.
Shouldn't I be more concerned with trying to finish school? That is why I planned my wedding for a break when FI would be able to travel and I would not have to miss anything. I don't see a problem with asking them to at least help me select a style (which they don't seem to know how to do but that's another story) so it can be ordered when the time comes. The girls are the ones who keep bringing it up, and I did not mind getting it out of the way. Plus, they knew the situation before agreeing to be in the wedding.
It seems like everytime I post a question, everyone thinks I'm crazy for even mentioning an idea this far out. FI and I are the ones paying for most of this so we are trying to put things on layaway or get things on sale. All of the other boards seem to give the message that I am majorly putting someone out everytime I bring up something about my wedding party or day in general. FI and I just want a happy day with no stress, but it seems like more stress is coming from trying to accomodate everyone else. So, why have weddings, even ceremonies, become so much about the people attending?
I would believe only in a God that knows how to dance. ~Friedrich Nietzsche