Im just slightly venting about everyone who feels 23 is too young to get married. I have been on other blogs and boards lately, and all sorts of ladies over the age of 30 feel that when you are younger than 30, you are too young to marry. Really?
I am 23, a full time student, finacially independant for the most part (parents only helping slightly) I have a very stable and well paying job for my age, my FI and I handle all of our bills together, pay rent on an apt. together, and have already saved $6000 in a joint account. They have also mentioned that planners and vendors won't take younger couples seriously, I have had ZERO problems with being taken seriously thus far. It may be due to the fact that my FI and I always go into a meeting knowing exactly what we are looking for, and we make decisions very promptly, and we make them together, but again we have had no issues.
It is also a slight peeve of mine when other students complain about not being able to handle finals and marriage at the same time. In my own thoughts, if you were not ready, why did you decide to do it? I too often feel like most people see women my age as only thinking as far as the wedding, not as far as the marriage itself. I realize that many younger brides make it all about "the big day", and yes, I am very excited for our wedding day myself. I have also realized what all goes into marriage though, and we have both realized our responsibilities and duties as husband and wife. If you fully realize what you are getting into, is it still fair to be classified as too young just because of your age? Marriage is about combining your lives, taking on life's responsibilities side by side, putting eachother first and doing your best to understand one another.
I know in my mind that I am young, but I also know that I am not naive. It is going to be hard, there will be bumps in the road, you will have days when just the sight of the other person irritates you
, but it will also be a great adventure if you both fully realize what it is truly about in the end. And side by side it will be better than standing alone.
Does anyone else my age feel this way? Are you tired of being classified as too young to know what you want, when you look around and see that you seem to be more pulled together than people twice your age?? I find it just a tad frustrating myself. And no, I don't feel like I know everything, But I do know that I have made the right decision by saying yes to the man of my dreams.