I am 22 and my fiancé is 24. We have been together for nearly 8 years, so it wasn't that shocking that we are getting married! However, the thing that really gets me is when people say we are too young!! Why do people think that it is ANY of their business?! I am still in college, I have 2 years left, and people are trying to convince me to wait until I graduate. Once you find the person you know you will spend the rest of your life with, why would I want to wait 2 more years?
"Why are we getting married so soon? We are in love. Why wait?? Also, I plan to go to medical school right after college. As you may know, med school is 4 years- after that, I will be an intern for about 5 years. I am going to be a surgeon, so again, you know- long hours, never home. There really won't be a good or decent time him and I could get married. I wouldn't have time to plan it either."I'm currently in medical school (and planning my wedding), so I assure you that it IS very possible to do both. Also 95% of my friends who went into college planing on being pre-med changed their minds before senior year, so make sure to keep an open mind about everything. I'm not saying that you don't know what you're getting yourself into, or will change your mind (I havent changed my mind about the guy or the career since I was 18 so you may not either!) but I am glad I didn't rush into anything.
Well my problem was maintaining my grades and wedding planning from a distance. I really have gone crazy. I'm trying to still do my best in 3 classes, but there's this one class that I just don't have any tolerance left for the teacher. She's rude and doesn't teach in an overall positive way. (I know that sounds confusing so let me elaborate)1) When I came in on the first day of class, I asked to talk with her at the end of it about leaving early for Thanksgiving. She told me that I couldn't leave. Even though I tried bringing up the fact that I had already bought the ticket, she always shut me down and up (english language tricks) and blew me off. She even stood me up for an appointment we made. 2) She has too few assignments and returns them to late to learn anything from them.3) We received our 2nd exam back 1 DAY before our FOURTH exam. That's not ok. 4) To top it off, she's a great lecturer, but jumps around too much in the book for us to follow that way and only provides picture slides. You basically have to bring a voice recorder to class to get everything.And the reason I was going home for Thanksgiving early: 1) I had more travel to do than other students (as in 2+6 hours of driving and 8 hours of flying one way), 2) I saw my plane ticket drop from 770 to 550 the week before classes started and for the last day of classes, and here's the big one 3) I was meeting my fiancé's extended family on his mom's side who aren't able to attend the wedding because of bad-weather and work.Normally, I'd want to exceed so well in her class and rub it in her face how smart I am. This semester: I want to fail her class so hard it looks ill on her standing as a teacher, then turn around and retake the class with flying colors. I don't even think I'm going to show up for the final. Logically I know this doesn't make sense, but emotionally I'm too tired to put up with her or give a damn. And that has been the hard part of planning this wedding during a semester and having the wedding during a break. Planning everything afar has been draining. School has been tedious. And crazy has escalated to psycho.
I procrastinate studying for exams by surfing the knot...that's how I juggle school and wedding planning!
Just kidding (kind of).
My FH proposed in November 2013, but we are not planning to be married until June 2015, leaving myself a little over a year and a half to plan and save! I am 19, paying my way through school by waitressing and bartending. He is 21 and an assistant manager at Discount Tire. We've been together for 3 years.
I didn't realize just how expensive weddings get! I have decided to take less hours this upcoming school year, and plan on working much more to enable me to save up a nice little nest egg.
So me and FI are both Students I'm a Junior here in Chicago and Fi has sophomore standing. We both graduated with our Associates degrees and then transferred which is why he is so much farther behind then me. FIs is 22 and I'm 21 (b-day is in 2 months though) We're getting married May 28th 2016. Me and FI just celebrated our 2 year anniversary and we've been engaged for one year.
Our Story: I was friends with his Best Friend for a year then bestie finally introduced us our senior year of High school. We became best friends and then finally got around to dating, when I was 19. Everyone's reaction was "We saw it coming, so and so owes me 20 bucks" LOL. Even though we've been engaged for a year we didn't start seriously planning the wedding until recently. My FIL passed away two weeks after we got engaged and then we moved to Chicago and transferred to a 4-year university this past January, so it's been more about us moving in together and dealing with other life events than planning.
FI and I both go to school on grants and scholarships and we both work and We're both Military Kids so the Gov't helps pay for living expenses We both work too. So we're able to save a lot of money and put it toward the wedding. We got very lucky though in that area.
I know its a lot to juggle, but one of the things I've done to help balance the planning with the school is that I really take advantage of school breaks like spring break and other smaller breaks to plan the wedding and set aside school for a few days. Even though me and FI live in Chicago we're having the wedding in Michigan (its much less expensive). So this past spring break I rode the train and stayed at grandma's and that is all I did for 6 days. I went and saw venues and talked to tons of people. Then when I came back I was able to concentrate just on school and work. It's really helped a bunch.
I know how stressful all the juggling can be especially when FI sometimes doesn't know how to help or even that he should. My FI has never been to a wedding and is basically clueless about the whole affair, but I still ask for his opinion so he feels like it's his day too.
Just remember, friends and family, even if they can't help money wise can still have good ideas when it comes to planning, and good contacts to vendors, (that's how I found our officiate).
It's your day, even if you have to wait 5 years to make it perfect, that just means you have more time to save money and also more time to figure out exactly what you want.
Another piece of unsolicited advice: stop wedding planning and start marriage planning. I would recommend getting pre-marital counseling (we would like to start in the fall), but a cheap way to start is by looking up some of the topics discussed in these sessions. Questions like:-Do you want to have children? How many? At what age? Would you rather adopt? If one of you can't have kids, what methods are you willing to explore? Will you spank your kids? Will you send them to public school? Will you set up college funds for them? Who will stay home with the kids? How long will they take off work to do so?-Will you have joint or separate accounts? How will you balance savings, checking, and investments? What kinds of investments are you comfortable with? How much will you give to charities annually? What charities will you give to? Who will actually pay the bills and take care of your daily finances?-If (rather, when) one of you dies, what do you want to be done with your body? What about your possessions? Do you want a living will? Are you willing to be an organ donor? Does the family medical history include any conditions that you should both know about?Those might seem like random questions, but I can tell you that I know my FI's answers to every one of them, because these are all things that will be extremely important at some point in our married life. If your relationship is strong, talking about things like this will only make your relationship stronger. If you have problems discussing things like this, then it might be time for the two of you to talk to a professional.