Scared to get started!!!

jviesetnz

So I just found out that my maid of honor got into the Peace Corps and will be living in Africa for the next two years... I am super happy for her and glad she is getting this opportunity. Problem is I am getting married in a year and a half and I really don't know how I am going to do it without her. How will she get measured? Help me with venues? etc.

My other two bridesmaids live in New York City and another in the Twin Cities. I live north of the cities, about three hours. I am panicing because I will not have anyone to help me it feels. WIll I be able to do it on my own? Is there any of you out there that have done this on your own because bridesmaids lived out of town??? Oh and i am a student so I have school load as well. HELP!!!

LauraT25

Like whitney said, the MOH doesn't really need to do anything.  Definitely not looking at venues with you - I'd say that's a job for your FI, and maybe parents (if they're paying).  It's great when people have bridesmaids who want to be involved and help out, but a lot of people have long-distance bridal parties or bridesmaids who DON'T get involved in planning, and it's perfectly fine.  FI and I are planning this wedding by ourselves and we're doing just fine.

She can measure herself, but it might be better to go to a tailor or dress shop and have them take her measurements for her.  Just because it can be a bit awkward holding the tape yourself and a surprising number of people measure themselves in the wrong place(s), so it's not entirely foolproof.  I think they *might* charge her some small fee for the service, but it would be worth it.  And if you're getting your BM dresses from a chain, she could walk into that store and get it done there next time she's in the states, probably for free, if she comes home.

A friend of mine actually had this same situation with a bridesmaid (Peace Corps in Africa), and she had to ship her a fabric tape measure because she was in such a remote location that there was nowhere for her to get measured and of course she hadn't packed one for the trip.  It was no big deal, it worked out fine.  She came back a week before the wedding for her fitting and alterations.

tesskerr

Thats what your FI is for! The BM only job really is to show up on the day. Venues/cakes/food etc is your FI and your choice,l because the wedding is about you two.

Gabrielle0505

I can kind of relate to what you're going through. My best friend who I would love to be in my wedding is ALSO going to Africa for two years for the Peace Corps...Although she is not my maid of honor, i would really like her to be there. She gets 50 days 'off' however they are encouraged to not go home and to visit other countries. It kind of makes me sad but I know that she is following her dreams